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&#272;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n l&agrave; m&#7897;t hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng x&#7843;y ra khi n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n trong c&aacute;c v&#7909; &aacute;n hay th&#7843;m k&#7883;ch b&#7883; bu&#7897;c ph&#7843;i nh&#7853;n tr&aacute;ch nhi&#7879;m v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng chuy&#7879;n x&#7843;y &#273;&#7871;n v&#7899;i h&#7885;. &#272;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n khi&#7871;n ng&#432;&#7901;i ta tin r&#7857;ng h&#7885; s&#7869; ch&#7859;ng bao gi&#7901; g&#7863;p ph&#7843;i nh&#7919;ng chuy&#7879;n nh&#432; th&#7871;. Hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng n&agrave;y th&#432;&#7901;ng x&#7843;y ra sau c&aacute;c v&#7909; hi&#7871;p d&acirc;m ho&#7863;c x&acirc;m h&#7841;i t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, v&agrave; ng&#432;&#7901;i ta s&#7869; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i v&igrave; n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n &#259;n m&#7863;c h&#7903; hang v&agrave; h&agrave;nh x&#7917; l&#7895; m&atilde;ng n&ecirc;n m&#7899;i d&#7909; d&#7895; c&aacute;c &#273;&#7889;i t&#432;&#7907;ng t&#7845;n c&ocirc;ng.M&#7897;t v&iacute; d&#7909; &#273;i&#7875;n h&igrave;nh v&#7873; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;nV&agrave;o n&#259;m 2003, m&#7897;t b&eacute; g&aacute;i 14 tu&#7893;i t&ecirc;n l&agrave; Elizabeth Smart &#273;&atilde; b&#7883; b&#7855;t c&oacute;c khi &#273;ang ng&#7911; trong ph&ograve;ng t&#7841;i th&agrave;nh ph&#7889; Salt Lake, Utah v&#7899;i con dao k&#7873; b&ecirc;n c&#7893;. C&ocirc; b&eacute; b&#7883; hai k&#7867; b&#7855;t c&oacute;c l&agrave; Brian Mitchell v&agrave; Wanda Barzee giam gi&#7919; 9 th&aacute;ng. Sau khi &#273;&#432;&#7907;c gi&#7843;i c&#7913;u v&agrave; c&ocirc;ng khai chi ti&#7871;t qu&atilde;ng th&#7901;i gian b&#7883; giam gi&#7919;, r&#7845;t nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; h&#7891; nghi t&#7841;i sao c&ocirc; b&eacute; kh&ocirc;ng t&#7921; m&igrave;nh tr&#7889;n tho&aacute;t ho&#7863;c &#273;&#7875; l&#7897; th&acirc;n ph&#7853;n ra.Th&#7853;t &#273;&aacute;ng bu&#7891;n l&agrave; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7887;i nh&#7919;ng c&acirc;u h&#7887;i &#273;&oacute; sau khi nghe nh&#7919;ng c&acirc;u chuy&#7879;n kh&#7911;ng khi&#7871;p. R&otilde; l&agrave; m&#7897;t v&#7909; &aacute;n gh&ecirc; r&#7907;n m&agrave; sao v&#7851;n c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n &#273;&#7871;n v&#7853;y?&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/1-NJIR.jpg"><figcaption>&#272;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n</figcaption></figure>T&#7841;i sao con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n?<ol><li>Quy k&#7871;t b&#7843;n ch&#7845;t</li></ol>C&oacute; m&#7897;t hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng t&acirc;m l&yacute; g&oacute;p ph&#7847;n d&#7851;n &#273;&#7871;n xu h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n, &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; l&#7895;i quy k&#7871;t b&#7843;n ch&#7845;t. L&#7895;i n&agrave;y x&#7843;y ra khi ch&uacute;ng ta quy ch&#7909;p h&agrave;nh vi c&#7911;a m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i do t&iacute;nh c&aacute;ch quy &#273;&#7883;nh m&agrave; qu&ecirc;n m&#7845;t r&#7857;ng c&aacute;c y&#7871;u t&#7889; ngo&#7841;i c&#7843;nh kh&aacute;c c&#361;ng c&oacute; li&ecirc;n quan.&nbsp;V&iacute; d&#7909; khi b&#7841;n c&ugrave;ng l&#7899;p thi tr&#432;&#7907;t, c&oacute; th&#7875; b&#7841;n s&#7869; quy k&#7871;t &#273;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y d&#7921;a tr&ecirc;n &#273;&#7863;c &#273;i&#7875;m ph&#7849;m ch&#7845;t v&iacute; d&#7909; nh&#432; ng&#432;&#7901;i n&agrave;y h&#7885;c kh&ocirc;ng ch&#259;m, kh&ocirc;ng th&ocirc;ng minh hay &#273;&#417;n thu&#7847;n l&agrave; l&#432;&#7901;i h&#7885;c.Nh&#432;ng khi ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh thi tr&#432;&#7907;t, b&#7841;n s&#7869; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho ai? Trong r&#7845;t nhi&#7873;u tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p, m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho ngo&#7841;i c&#7843;nh. B&#7841;n s&#7869; bao bi&#7879;n r&#7857;ng l&#7899;p h&#7885;c qu&aacute; n&oacute;ng khi&#7871;n b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; t&#7853;p trung, ho&#7863;c l&agrave; gi&aacute;o vi&ecirc;n thi&ecirc;n v&#7883; khi ch&#7845;m b&agrave;i, ho&#7863;c n&#7919;a l&agrave; &#273;&#7873; ki&#7875;m tra c&oacute; qu&aacute; nhi&#7873;u c&acirc;u l&#7855;t l&eacute;o.&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 2. Bi&#7871;t tr&#432;&#7899;c th&igrave; &#273;&atilde; kh&aacute;cM&#7897;t y&#7871;u t&#7889; kh&aacute;c d&#7851;n &#273;&#7871;n xu h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n l&agrave; thi&ecirc;n l&#7879;ch nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c mu&#7897;n [1]Khi nh&igrave;n nh&#7853;n m&#7897;t vi&#7879;c trong qu&aacute; kh&#7913;, ch&uacute;ng ta th&#432;&#7901;ng ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng &#273;&aacute;ng l&#7869; ra m&igrave;nh n&ecirc;n tr&ocirc;ng th&#7845;y c&aacute;c d&#7845;u hi&#7879;u v&agrave; d&#7921; &#273;o&aacute;n tr&#432;&#7899;c k&#7871;t qu&#7843; m&#7899;i ph&#7843;i.<ul><li>Nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c mu&#7897;n khi&#7871;n ch&uacute;ng ta ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng &#273;&aacute;ng l&#7869; ra n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n c&#7911;a v&#7909; &aacute;n &#273;&oacute;, tai n&#7841;n &#273;&oacute;, hay b&#7845;t k&#7875; n&#7895;i b&#7845;t h&#7841;nh n&agrave;o &#273;&#7873;u ph&#7843;i bi&#7871;t m&agrave; d&#7921; &#273;o&aacute;n tr&#432;&#7899;c v&agrave; ng&#259;n kh&ocirc;ng cho s&#7921; vi&#7879;c x&#7843;y &#273;&#7871;n v&#7899;i m&igrave;nh m&#7899;i ph&#7843;i.</li></ul><figure class="image image-style-side"><img src="/upload/files/171831_hieu1-191413665(1).jpg"></figure>V&agrave; ch&uacute;ng ta kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; nh&igrave;n nh&#7853;n s&#7921; vi&#7879;c theo h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&oacute; &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i c&aacute;c tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p hi&#7871;p d&acirc;m hay x&acirc;m h&#7841;i t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c. Khi ai &#273;&oacute; b&#7883; &#7889;m, ng&#432;&#7901;i ta th&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i v&igrave; h&#7885; l&agrave;m th&#7871; n&agrave;y l&agrave;m th&#7871; kia m&#7899;i d&#7851;n &#273;&#7871;n t&igrave;nh c&#7843;nh nh&#432; hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i.&nbsp;Ung th&#432;? &#272;&aacute;ng l&yacute; ra h&#7885; ph&#7843;i b&#7887; thu&#7889;c l&aacute; ch&#7913;.B&#7879;nh tim? Ch&agrave;, &#273;&aacute;ng l&yacute; ra h&#7885; ph&#7843;i t&#7853;p th&#7875; d&#7909;c nhi&#7873;u h&#417;n ch&#7913;.Ng&#7897; &#273;&#7897;c th&#7921;c ph&#7849;m? Bi&#7871;t v&#7853;y kh&ocirc;ng &#273;i &#259;n nh&agrave; h&agrave;ng cho xong.Ch&uacute;ng ta mu&#7889;n ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng b&igrave;nh &#273;&#7859;ng, nh&#432;ng th&#7921;c t&#7871; th&igrave; kh&ocirc;ngCh&uacute;ng ta c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n c&oacute; th&#7875; l&agrave; v&igrave; mu&#7889;n tin v&agrave;o s&#7921; b&igrave;nh &#273;&#7859;ng c&#7911;a th&#7875; gi&#7899;i. Khi bi&#7871;n c&#7889; &#7853;p &#273;&#7871;n v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c, ch&uacute;ng ta th&#432;&#7901;ng ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng ch&#7855;c h&#7859;n h&#7885; &#273;&atilde; l&agrave;m &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave; &#273;&aacute;ng tr&#7915;ng ph&#7841;t. C&aacute;c nh&agrave; t&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c x&atilde; h&#7897;i li&ecirc;n t&#432;&#7903;ng xu h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&oacute;&nbsp; v&#7899;i hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng &ldquo;&ocirc;ng tr&#7901;i c&oacute; m&#7855;t&rdquo;.V&#7853;y t&#7841;i sao ch&uacute;ng ta l&#7841;i c&#7847;n tin th&#7871; gi&#7899;i c&ocirc;ng b&#7857;ng v&agrave; ai gieo nh&acirc;n n&agrave;o s&#7869; g&#7863;t qu&#7843; &#273;&oacute;?&nbsp;B&#7903;i khi ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng th&#7871; gi&#7899;i kh&ocirc;ng c&ocirc;ng b&#7857;ng, r&otilde; r&agrave;ng l&agrave; b&#7845;t c&#7913; ai c&#361;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n trong t&#7845;n th&#7843;m k&#7883;ch. B&#7841;n, b&#7841;n b&egrave; c&#7911;a b&#7841;n, gia &#273;&igrave;nh c&#7911;a b&#7841;n v&agrave; c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n y&ecirc;u th&#432;&#417;ng. D&ugrave; c&oacute; c&#7849;n tr&#7885;ng v&agrave; k&#7929; l&#432;&#7905;ng &#273;&#7871;n &#273;&acirc;u th&igrave; chuy&#7879;n kh&ocirc;ng may v&#7851;n c&oacute; th&#7875; v&agrave; ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n s&#7869; x&#7843;y ra v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i thi&#7879;n.Nh&#432;ng n&#7871;u tin r&#7857;ng th&#7871; gi&#7899;i c&ocirc;ng b&#7857;ng, tin v&agrave;o lu&#7853;t nh&acirc;n qu&#7843;, v&agrave; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n, con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; th&#7875; ti&#7871;p t&#7909;c &#7843;o t&#432;&#7903;ng r&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng s&#7921; vi&#7879;c kh&#7911;ng khi&#7871;p &#7845;y s&#7869; kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; x&#7843;y ra v&#7899;i h&#7885;.&nbsp;Verywell c&oacute; v&agrave;i l&#7901;i nh&#7855;n nh&#7911;Bi&#7871;n c&#7889; c&oacute; th&#7875; x&#7843;y &#273;&#7871;n v&#7899;i b&#7841;n v&agrave;o m&#7897;t l&uacute;c n&agrave;o &#273;&oacute; trong &#273;&#7901;i. V&#7853;y n&ecirc;n sau n&agrave;y n&#7871;u b&#7841;n ho&agrave;i nghi ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c &#273;&atilde; l&agrave;m g&igrave; &#273;&#7875; g&aacute;nh l&#7845;y b&#7845;t h&#7841;nh, th&igrave; h&atilde;y d&agrave;nh ch&uacute;t th&#7901;i gian ng&#7851;m l&#7841;i nh&#7919;ng quy ch&#7909;p t&acirc;m l&yacute; v&agrave; &#273;&#7883;nh ki&#7871;n &#7843;nh h&#432;&#7903;ng &#273;&#7871;n ph&aacute;n &#273;o&aacute;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n. Thay v&igrave; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n, h&atilde;y th&#7917; &#273;&#7863;t m&igrave;nh v&agrave;o v&#7883; tr&iacute; c&#7911;a h&#7885; v&agrave; n&#7871;u &#273;&#432;&#7907;c h&atilde;y th&#7917; &#273;&#7891;ng c&#7843;m v&#7899;i h&#7885; xem sao.<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/dong-cam(1).jpg"><figcaption>H&atilde;y &#273;&#7891;ng c&#7843;m</figcaption></figure>[1] Thi&ecirc;n l&#7879;ch nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c mu&#7897;n l&agrave; m&#7897;t hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng t&acirc;m l&yacute; khi ng&#432;&#7901;i ta &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; qu&aacute; cao kh&#7843; n&#259;ng d&#7921; &#273;o&aacute;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&#7873; m&#7897;t s&#7921; ki&#7879;n.&nbsp;----------------------------------------------Translator: L&ecirc; LanEditor: Ph&#7841;m Th&#7843;o LinhH&igrave;nh &#7843;nh minh h&#7885;a: S&#432;u t&#7847;m InternetLink b&agrave;i g&#7889;c: https://www.verywellmind.com/why-do-people-blame-the-victim-2795911----------------------------------------------&#119826;&#119832;&#119812; - &#119826;&#119828;&#119809; &#119832;&#119848;&#119854;&#119853;&#119841; &#119812;&#119837;&#119842;&#119853;&#119848;&#119851;Fanpage: SUB Youth EditorEmail: sye.youthplus.vn@gmail.comWebsite: youth.com.vn&nbsp;

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