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&ldquo;L&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i linh h&#7891;n gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; oxi &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i c&#417; th&#7875;. Ch&#7863;n ngu&#7891;n oxy c&#7911;a m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i, v&agrave; c&#417; th&#7875; anh ta s&#7869; ch&#7871;t; t&#432;&#7899;c &#273;o&#7841;t l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n c&#7911;a m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i, v&agrave; linh h&#7891;n anh ta s&#7869; ch&#7871;t.&rsquo;&rsquo;(Thomas Szasz)&nbsp; &nbsp;L&ograve;ng t&#7921; tr&#7885;ng hay l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c d&#7883;ch trong ti&#7871;ng Anh l&agrave; &ldquo;self-esteem&rdquo;. T&#7915; &#273;i&#7875;n Cambridge di&#7877;n gi&#7843;i &ldquo;Self-esteem&rdquo; l&agrave; s&#7921; t&#7921; t&ocirc;n tr&#7885;ng b&#7843;n th&acirc;n ho&#7863;c ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave; s&#7921; t&#7921; tin v&agrave;o kh&#7843; n&#259;ng v&agrave; gi&aacute; tr&#7883; c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n&rdquo;. Esteem c&oacute; g&#7889;c t&#7915; estimate, ngh&#297;a l&agrave; s&#7921; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute;. &ldquo;Self-esteem&rdquo; c&oacute; th&#7875; hi&#7875;u l&agrave; s&#7921; t&#7921; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute;, t&#7921; nh&#7853;n x&eacute;t, t&#7921; hi&#7875;u v&#7873; gi&aacute; tr&#7883; c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n &#7903; m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i. Trong nhi&#7873;u n&#259;m, nh&#7919;ng chuy&ecirc;n gia &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#7863;t &ldquo;self-esteem&rdquo; l&agrave;m n&#7873;n t&#7843;ng nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u, h&#7885; ch&#7881; ra r&#7857;ng, l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n c&oacute; li&ecirc;n quan &#273;&#7871;n h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c, c&oacute; ngh&#297;a l&agrave; m&#7897;t h&igrave;nh t&#432;&#7907;ng b&#7843;n th&acirc;n t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p, l&agrave; th&agrave;nh t&#7889; quan tr&#7885;ng trong c&ocirc;ng th&#7913;c c&#7911;a m&#7897;t cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng &yacute; ngh&#297;a.&nbsp; &nbsp;L&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c chia ra l&agrave;m 2 lo&#7841;i, l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n th&#7845;p (low self-esteem) v&agrave; l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n l&agrave;nh m&#7841;nh (healthy self-esteem).&nbsp; &nbsp;C&oacute; m&#7897;t l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n th&#7845;p (low self-esteem) kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; l&agrave; m&#7897;t c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c v&ocirc; d&#7909;ng chung chung, n&oacute; th&#7875; hi&#7879;n trong h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng ho&#7863;c kh&ocirc;ng trong h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng, b&#7845;t k&#7875; l&agrave; m&#7897;t &#273;&#7913;a tr&#7867; hay m&#7897;t "&#273;&#7913;a tr&#7867; &#273;&atilde; tr&#432;&#7903;ng th&agrave;nh" khi h&#7885; c&#7889; g&#7855;ng l&agrave;m b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave;.&nbsp; &nbsp;C&aacute; nh&acirc;n h&#7885; s&#7869; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7911; t&#7889;t trong c&aacute;c t&igrave;nh hu&#7889;ng x&atilde; h&#7897;i, bao g&#7891;m c&#7843; vi&#7879;c h&#7865;n h&ograve;, v&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7911; kh&#7843; n&#259;ng &#273;&#7875; ho&agrave;n th&agrave;nh b&#7845;t c&#7913; m&#7897;t y&ecirc;u c&#7847;u hay mong mu&#7889;n n&agrave;o trong c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c. Khi c&#7843;m x&uacute;c n&agrave;y tr&#7903; n&ecirc;n nghi&ecirc;m tr&#7885;ng h&#417;n, n&oacute; bi&#7871;n ng&#432;&#7901;i ta th&agrave;nh m&#7897;t k&#7867; th&#7845;t b&#7841;i. C&#7843;m gi&aacute;c bi quan c&ugrave;ng c&#7921;c, ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7845;y s&#7869; kh&ocirc;ng mu&#7889;n l&agrave;m b&#7845;t c&#7913; th&#7913; g&igrave; &#273;em l&#7841;i gi&aacute; tr&#7883; n&#7919;a. B&#7845;t k&#7923; th&#7917; th&aacute;ch n&agrave;o d&#432;&#7901;ng nh&#432; c&#361;ng qu&aacute; t&#7847;m &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i h&#7885;. &#272;o&aacute;n tr&#432;&#7899;c s&#7921; th&#7845;t b&#7841;i tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh l&#7901;i ti&ecirc;n tri t&#7921; &#7913;ng nghi&#7879;m (self-fulfilling) &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i h&#7885;.&nbsp; &nbsp;Ng&#432;&#7907;c l&#7841;i, ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; &ldquo;healthy self-esteem&rdquo; s&#7869; lu&ocirc;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y t&#7889;t h&#417;n v&#7873; b&#7843;n th&acirc;n. Nh&#7919;ng nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u h&igrave;nh &#7843;nh n&atilde;o b&#7897; cho th&#7845;y khi c&oacute; l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n cao, ch&uacute;ng ta s&#7869; ti&#7871;p nh&#7853;n nh&#7919;ng v&#7871;t th&#432;&#417;ng v&#7873; m&#7863;t c&#7843;m x&uacute;c nh&#432; b&#7883; t&#7915; ch&#7889;i hay th&#7845;t b&#7841;i &iacute;t &#273;au &#273;&#7899;n h&#417;n v&agrave; ch&uacute;ng ta b&#7853;t d&#7853;y nhanh h&#417;n. Ch&uacute;ng ta c&#361;ng &iacute;t b&#7883; lo &acirc;u t&#7845;n c&ocirc;ng, ti&#7871;t xu&#7845;t ra &iacute;t cortisol h&#417;n khi g&#7863;p c&#259;ng th&#7859;ng, v&agrave; c&#259;ng th&#7859;ng c&#361;ng kh&ocirc;ng k&eacute;o d&agrave;i l&acirc;u trong c&#417; th&#7875; ch&uacute;ng ta.&nbsp; &nbsp;Con ng&#432;&#7901;i l&agrave; &#273;&#7897;ng v&#7853;t duy nh&#7845;t t&#7921; g&acirc;y ra &#273;au kh&#7893; cho m&igrave;nh. N&#7871;u nh&#7919;ng lo&agrave;i &#273;&#7897;ng v&#7853;t kh&aacute;c ch&#7883;u s&#7921; t&#7893;n th&#432;&#417;ng b&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng ngo&#7841;i c&#7843;nh, t&aacute;c &#273;&#7897;ng v&#7853;t l&yacute; th&igrave; duy ch&#7881; c&oacute; con ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&oacute;n nh&#7853;n s&#7921; ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c, b&#7857;ng con m&#7855;t ch&#7911; quan, s&#7921; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute;, k&#7923; v&#7885;ng, h&#7889;i ti&#7871;c v&agrave; nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c.&nbsp; &nbsp;Gi&#7919; l&ograve;ng t&#7921; tr&#7885;ng c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; ngh&#297;a ch&uacute;ng ta ph&#7843;i b&oacute; bu&#7897;c b&#7843;n th&acirc;n l&agrave;m nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u c&#7843;m th&#7845;y nh&agrave;m ch&aacute;n, h&atilde;y c&#7913; s&#7889;ng h&#7871;t m&igrave;nh v&agrave; tho&#7843;i m&aacute;i nh&#432;ng h&atilde;y nh&#7899; l&agrave; c&oacute; &#273;i&#7875;m d&#7915;ng &#273;&#7875; sau n&agrave;y kh&ocirc;ng h&#7893; th&#7865;n v&#7899;i ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh v&agrave; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh. 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[ẨN] - Self-esteem (lòng tự trọng)