[ẨN] - Self-esteem (lòng tự trọng)

[YOUTH+ HAI DUONG CHÍNH THỨC MỞ ĐƠN TUYỂN THÀNH VIÊN GEN 3]

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[MỘT NGÀY CỦA YOUTHER]

B&#7855;t ngu&#7891;n t&#7915; v&#7903; k&#7883;ch Gaslight (1983) n&oacute;i v&#7873; h&agrave;nh vi b&#7841;o h&agrave;nh t&acirc;m l&yacute; c&oacute; h&#7879; th&#7889;ng c&#7911;a nh&acirc;n v&#7853;t Jack Manningham l&ecirc;n v&#7907; &ocirc;ng l&agrave; Bella Manningham, thu&#7853;t ng&#7919; &ldquo;Gaslighting&rdquo; &#273;&atilde; ra &#273;&#7901;i.&#272;&acirc;y l&agrave; m&#7897;t d&#7841;ng b&#7841;o h&agrave;nh t&acirc;m l&yacute; r&#7845;t hi&#7879;u qu&#7843; v&igrave; n&oacute; khi&#7871;n n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n t&#7921; nghi ng&#7901; c&#7843;m x&uacute;c, b&#7843;n n&#259;ng v&agrave; s&#7921; t&#7881;nh t&aacute;o c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. Khi &#273;&oacute;, k&#7867; b&#7841;o h&agrave;nh s&#7869; c&oacute; r&#7845;t nhi&#7873;u quy&#7873;n l&#7921;c, d&#7877; d&agrave;ng ki&#7875;m so&aacute;t n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n. V&agrave; trong nh&#7919;ng gi&acirc;y ph&uacute;t b&#7845;t c&#7849;n, ch&iacute;nh ch&uacute;ng ta l&#7841;i tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n c&#7911;a ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh, r&#417;i v&agrave;o c&aacute;i b&#7851;y &ldquo;Self-gaslighting&rdquo;.Trong v&#7903; k&#7883;ch Gaslight, ng&#432;&#7901;i ch&#7891;ng &#273;&atilde; v&#7863;n chi&#7871;c &#273;&egrave;n chi&#7871;u s&aacute;ng ch&#7841;y b&#7857;ng gas (gaslighting) nh&#7887; d&#7847;n h&agrave;ng &#273;&ecirc;m &#273;&#7875; ph&#7911; nh&#7853;n vi&#7879;c ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7907; nh&#7853;n th&#7845;y s&#7921; thay &#273;&#7893;i c&#7911;a &aacute;nh s&aacute;ng v&agrave; b&oacute;ng t&#7889;i b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch cho r&#7857;ng t&#7845;t c&#7843; l&agrave; do c&ocirc; t&#7921; t&#432;&#7903;ng t&#432;&#7907;ng ra. Anh ta c&#361;ng gi&#7845;u &#273;&#7891; c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7907; nh&#432;ng l&#7841;i kh&#259;ng kh&#259;ng r&#7857;ng c&ocirc; &#7845;y &#273;&atilde; l&agrave;m m&#7845;t ch&uacute;ng. L&acirc;u d&#7847;n, ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7907; ngh&#297; r&#7857;ng b&#7843;n th&acirc;n c&oacute; v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; v&#7873; t&acirc;m th&#7847;n. H&agrave;nh vi trong b&#7897; phim c&ograve;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c g&#7885;i l&agrave; thao t&uacute;ng - m&#7897;t h&igrave;nh th&#7913;c l&#7841;m d&#7909;ng, &#273;&#7883;nh h&#432;&#7899;ng suy ngh&#297; v&agrave; c&#7843;m x&uacute;c nh&#7857;m khi&#7871;n ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7883; thao t&uacute;ng nghi ng&#7901; v&#7873; th&#7921;c t&#7871; v&agrave; s&#7921; t&#7881;nh t&aacute;o c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. N&#7871;u nh&#432; vi&#7879;c d&#7851;n d&#7855;t v&agrave; l&#7841;m d&#7909;ng n&agrave;y kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i do m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c th&#7921;c hi&#7879;n m&agrave; l&agrave; do b&#7841;n t&#7921; th&#7921;c hi&#7879;n v&#7899;i b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh th&igrave; &#273;&oacute; ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; t&#7921; thao t&uacute;ng (self &ndash; gaslighting).C&oacute; bao gi&#7901; b&#7841;n &#273;&atilde; t&#7921; so s&aacute;nh m&igrave;nh v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh? C&oacute; bao gi&#7901; b&#7841;n t&#7921; cho l&agrave; m&igrave;nh thua k&eacute;m? Hay b&#7841;n lu&ocirc;n nh&#7853;n h&#7871;t l&#7895;i l&#7847;m v&#7873; ph&iacute;a m&igrave;nh? B&#7841;n cho r&#7857;ng b&#7843;n th&acirc;n ch&#432;a &#273;&#7911; t&#7889;t, ch&#432;a ho&agrave;n h&#7843;o?...Nh&#7919;ng c&acirc;u h&#7887;i b&#7841;n cho r&#7857;ng b&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; m&#7863;c &#273;&#7883;nh &#273;&oacute; ch&#7881; l&agrave; c&aacute;ch m&igrave;nh nh&#7853;n l&#7895;i, l&agrave; h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng d&#361;ng c&#7843;m v&agrave; khi&ecirc;m t&#7889;n. Nh&#432;ng b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t r&#7857;ng &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute; th&#7921;c s&#7921; &#273;ang thao t&uacute;ng suy ngh&#297;, c&#7843;m x&uacute;c c&#7911;a b&#7841;n, &ldquo;nh&#7891;i nh&eacute;t&rdquo; m&#7897;t &yacute; ngh&#297; tr&aacute;i v&#7899;i suy ngh&#297; th&#7853;t c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh khi&#7871;n b&#7841;n nghi ng&#7901; v&agrave; ch&#7881; tr&iacute;ch ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh. R&#7891;i d&#7847;n b&#7841;n r&#417;i v&agrave;o b&#7851;y &ldquo;Self - gaslighting&rdquo; do ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh t&#7841;o ra.Nh&agrave; t&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c Harvard, ti&#7871;n s&#297; Christopher Gemer t&#7915;ng &#273;&#7873; c&#7853;p trong cu&#7889;n s&aacute;ch "Con &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng t&#432; duy &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; l&ograve;ng tr&#7855;c &#7849;n: Gi&#7843;i ph&oacute;ng b&#7843;n th&acirc;n kh&#7887;i nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; v&agrave; c&#7843;m x&uacute;c t&agrave;n ph&aacute;" c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh r&#7857;ng: &ldquo;Th&#7921;c ra, khi &#273;i&#7873;u t&#7891;i t&#7879; x&#7843;y ra ch&uacute;ng ta th&#432;&#7901;ng c&oacute; ba ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng &#273;&aacute;ng ti&#7871;c: t&#7921; ph&ecirc; b&igrave;nh, t&#7921; c&ocirc; l&#7853;p v&agrave; t&#7921; h&#7845;p th&#7909;&rdquo;. C&aacute;c n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n c&#7911;a &ldquo;Self - gaslighting&rdquo; kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; b&#7883; t&#7893;n th&#432;&#417;ng b&#7903;i nh&#7919;ng h&#7853;u qu&#7843; tr&#7921;c ti&#7871;p v&#7873; th&#7875; x&aacute;c v&agrave; tinh th&#7847;n t&#7915; nh&#7919;ng v&#7909; b&#7841;o h&agrave;nh m&agrave; c&ograve;n b&#7903;i nh&#7919;ng ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c.C&oacute; l&#7869; con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta d&#7877; d&agrave;ng tin t&#432;&#7903;ng r&#7857;ng m&igrave;nh s&#7869; kh&ocirc;ng b&#7883; t&#7893;n th&#432;&#417;ng b&#7903;i h&#7885; tin th&#7871; gi&#7899;i l&agrave; t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p v&agrave; c&ocirc;ng b&#7857;ng, &#273;i&#7873;u t&#7889;t x&#7843;y &#273;&#7871;n v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i t&#7889;t. Th&#7871; n&ecirc;n kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh, m&agrave; ngay c&#7843; n&#7841;n nh&acirc;n c&#361;ng kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#7911; ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave;o b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh, t&#7921; &#273;&#7893; l&#7895;i cho ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh. H&#7885; cho r&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng h&agrave;nh vi c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh l&agrave; nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n d&#7851;n &#273;&#7871;n nh&#7919;ng h&#7853;u qu&#7843; &#273;au l&ograve;ng.&#272;&#7875; ng&#259;n ch&#7863;n &ldquo;Self - gaslighting&rdquo; b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&#7895;i ch&uacute;ng ta ph&#7843;i d&aacute;m th&#7915;a nh&#7853;n v&agrave; &#273;&#7889;i di&#7879;n v&#7899;i ch&uacute;ng. Bi&#7871;t th&#432;&#417;ng y&ecirc;u v&agrave; tr&acirc;n tr&#7885;ng ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh, l&#7855;ng nghe v&agrave; v&#7895; v&#7873; ti&#7871;ng n&oacute;i s&acirc;u trong con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. Ch&uacute;ng ta c&oacute; quy&#7873;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c y&ecirc;u, gh&eacute;t, &#273;&#7915;ng ch&#7881; ngh&#297; &#273;&#7871;n c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n c&#7911;a m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i m&agrave; qu&ecirc;n m&#7845;t &#273;i nh&#7919;ng v&#7871;t x&#432;&#7899;c c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh b&#7903;i &ldquo;m&#7895;i ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&#7873;u l&agrave; m&#7897;t v&igrave; tinh t&uacute; tr&ecirc;n b&#7847;u tr&#7901;i c&#7911;a nh&acirc;n lo&#7841;i&rdquo;.T&ocirc;i v&agrave; c&ocirc; b&eacute; tr&aacute;i tim <img src="https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t6c/1/16/2764.png" alt="&#10084;&#65039;">.&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&mdash;&#119832;&#119848;&#119854;&#119853;&#119841;+ &#119815;&#119834;&#119842; &#119811;&#119854;&#119848;&#119847;&#119840; - &#120294;&#120309;&#120310;&#120315;&#120306; &#120303;&#120319;&#120310;&#120308;&#120309;&#120321; &#120313;&#120310;&#120312;&#120306; &#120302; &#120305;&#120310;&#120302;&#120314;&#120316;&#120315;&#120305;Youth+ H&#7843;i D&#432;&#417;ng l&agrave; m&#7897;t chi nh&aacute;nh tr&#7921;c thu&#7897;c t&#7893; ch&#7913;c Youth+ Community<img src="https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/tc0/1/16/1f4e9.png" alt="&#128233;">TH&Ocirc;NG TIN LI&Ecirc;N H&#7878;&#120385;&#120406;&#120408;&#120410;&#120407;&#120420;&#120420;&#120416;: Youth+ Hai Duong&#120384;&#120418;&#120406;&#120414;&#120417;: youthplushaiduong@gmail.com&#120387;&#120420;&#120425;&#120417;&#120414;&#120419;&#120410;:Nguy&#7877;n Ng&#7885;c Mai (President): 0972745266Tr&#7847;n Th&#7883; Kim Oanh (Head of PR): 0377028220

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Bắt nguồn từ vở kịch Gaslight (1983) nói về hành vi bạo hành tâm lý có hệ thống của nhân vật Jack Manningham lên vợ ông là Bella Manningham, thuật 

[ẨN] - Self-gaslighting (“ánh đèn khí ga” - Hiện tượng tự thao túng bản thân)

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