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T&#7915; khi b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u chuy&#7875;n h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7875; &#273;i theo m&#7897;t l&#297;nh v&#7921;c m&#7899;i, kh&ocirc;ng &iacute;t l&#7847;n m&igrave;nh b&#7883; r&#417;i v&agrave;o c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c hoang mang, lo l&#7855;ng kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t r&#7857;ng li&#7879;u r&#7891;i m&#7885;i chuy&#7879;n m&igrave;nh &#273;ang l&agrave;m s&#7869; &#273;i &#273;&#7871;n &#273;&acirc;u, li&#7879;u r&#7891;i m&igrave;nh c&oacute; th&#7875; &#273;&#7871;n &#273;&iacute;ch &#273;&#432;&#7907;c kh&ocirc;ng.D&#432;&#7899;i &#273;&acirc;y l&agrave; m&#7897;t b&agrave;i h&#7885;c m&agrave; m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; h&#7885;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c khi &#273;i tham gia kh&oacute;a thi&#7873;n Vipassana 10 ng&agrave;y.N&oacute;i s&#417; qua v&#7873; b&#7843;n th&acirc;n th&igrave; m&igrave;nh v&#7889;n d&#297; l&agrave; m&#7897;t &#273;&#7913;a th&iacute;ch ki&#7875;m so&aacute;t k&#7871;t qu&#7843; v&agrave; kh&aacute; thi&#7871;u ki&ecirc;n nh&#7851;n. Khi l&agrave;m m&#7897;t vi&#7879;c g&igrave; &#273;&oacute; th&igrave; m&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng mong mu&#7889;n c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c k&#7871;t qu&#7843; r&otilde; r&agrave;ng v&agrave; nhanh ch&oacute;ng. &#272;&oacute; c&#361;ng l&agrave; l&yacute; do v&igrave; sao khi h&#7885;c m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave; m&#7899;i th&igrave; vi&#7879;c t&#7921; h&#7885;c &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i m&igrave;nh kh&aacute; kh&oacute; kh&#259;n, thay v&agrave;o &#273;&oacute; vi&#7879;c tham gia v&agrave;o m&#7897;t l&#7899;p h&#7885;c hay kh&oacute;a h&#7885;c n&agrave;o &#273;&oacute; khi&#7871;n m&igrave;nh c&#7843;m th&#7845;y m&igrave;nh ti&#7871;n b&#7897; nhanh h&#417;n nhi&#7873;u. M&#7897;t ph&#7847;n v&igrave; c&aacute;c l&#7899;p h&#7885;c th&#432;&#7901;ng c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#7885;c chung &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; th&#7875; c&#7841;nh tranh, m&#7897;t ph&#7847;n v&igrave; &#273;i h&#7885;c th&#432;&#7901;ng s&#7869; c&oacute; ki&#7875;m tra, &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; n&#259;ng l&#7921;c &#273;&#7875; th&ocirc;ng qua &#273;&oacute; m&igrave;nh nh&#7853;n bi&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh &#273;ang h&#7885;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7871;n &#273;&acirc;u, &#273;&#7871;n m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; n&agrave;o. C&ograve;n vi&#7879;c t&#7921; h&#7885;c, t&#7921; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; th&igrave; m&igrave;nh kh&aacute; k&eacute;m, n&ecirc;n vi&#7879;c t&#7921; h&#7885;c y&ecirc;u c&#7847;u ph&#7843;i ki&ecirc;n nh&#7851;n h&#7885;c m&#7897;t m&igrave;nh v&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c r&#7857;ng li&#7879;u m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; ti&#7871;n b&#7897; &#273;&#7871;n m&#7913;c n&agrave;o, khi&#7871;n b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh c&#7843;m th&#7845;y kh&aacute; kh&oacute; ch&#7883;u v&agrave; th&#432;&#7901;ng b&#7887; cu&#7897;c gi&#7919;a ch&#7915;ng.Th&aacute;ng tr&#432;&#7899;c, m&igrave;nh d&agrave;nh th&#7901;i gian &#273;&#7875; tham d&#7921; kh&oacute;a thi&#7873;n 10 ng&agrave;y. Khi tham d&#7921; kh&oacute;a thi&#7873;n n&agrave;y th&igrave; m&#7897;t trong nhi&#7873;u quy t&#7855;c chung cho t&#7845;t c&#7843; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i tu&acirc;n theo &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; t&#7883;nh kh&#7849;u (kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n). Vi&#7879;c t&#7883;nh kh&#7849;u &#273;&#7875; cho m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i t&#7853;p trung v&agrave;o b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh, kh&ocirc;ng nh&igrave;n ng&oacute; hay quan t&acirc;m &#273;&#7871;n ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c, kh&ocirc;ng so s&aacute;nh kinh nghi&#7879;m c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c. T&#7883;nh kh&#7849;u c&#361;ng l&agrave; ch&iacute;nh y&#7871;u t&#7889; khi&#7871;n m&igrave;nh b&#7855;t bu&#7897;c ph&#7843;i &ldquo;t&#7921; h&#7885;c&rdquo;.Kho&#7843;ng ba ng&agrave;y r&#432;&#7905;i &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n c&#7911;a kh&oacute;a thi&#7873;n t&#7845;t c&#7843; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i s&#7869; ph&#7843;i h&#7885;c thi&#7873;n quan s&aacute;t h&#417;i th&#7903; &#273;i v&agrave;o v&agrave; &#273;i ra qua hai c&aacute;nh m&#361;i, ho&#7863;c &#7903; v&ugrave;ng da d&#432;&#7899;i m&#361;i, tr&ecirc;n m&ocirc;i v&#7899;i s&#7921; ch&uacute; t&acirc;m, t&#7881;nh th&#7913;c, li&ecirc;n t&#7909;c &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#7841;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7871;n tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i &#273;&#7883;nh t&acirc;m. V&igrave; m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#7885;c v&agrave; t&igrave;m hi&#7875;u nhi&#7873;u v&#7873; thi&#7873;n tr&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&oacute;, c&#361;ng t&#7915;ng th&#7917; th&#7921;c h&agrave;nh thi&#7873;n quan s&aacute;t h&#417;i th&#7903; n&ecirc;n m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng bi&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&ocirc;i ch&uacute;t v&#7873; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c quan s&aacute;t h&#417;i th&#7903; t&#7921; nhi&ecirc;n, li&ecirc;n t&#7909;c trong m&#7897;t kho&#7843;ng th&#7901;i gian (d&ugrave; kh&ocirc;ng d&agrave;i) l&agrave; nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o. Tuy nhi&ecirc;n, v&igrave; b&#7887; d&#7903; vi&#7879;c th&#7921;c h&agrave;nh m&#7897;t th&#7901;i gian tr&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&oacute; n&ecirc;n &#273;&#7871;n khi tham gia kh&oacute;a thi&#7873;n &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n, m&igrave;nh th&#7921;c s&#7921; kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; n&agrave;o c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c h&#417;i th&#7903; m&#7897;t c&aacute;ch tr&#7885;n v&#7865;n.Ng&agrave;y &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n, m&igrave;nh ho&agrave;n to&agrave;n kh&ocirc;ng c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c h&#417;i th&#7903; m&agrave; ch&#7881; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y c&aacute;c c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c &#273;au nh&#7913;c to&agrave;n th&acirc;n li&ecirc;n t&#7909;c. Ng&agrave;y th&#7913; hai m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c m&#7897;t ch&uacute;t c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c h&#417;i th&#7903; &#273;i v&agrave;o m&#361;i, &#7845;m, nh&#7865; nh&#432;ng l&#7841;i kh&ocirc;ng c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c h&#417;i th&#7903; ra. C&#7843;m gi&aacute;c n&agrave;y k&eacute;o d&agrave;i &#273;&#7871;n h&#7871;t ng&agrave;y th&#7913; ba. V&agrave; m&atilde;i &#273;&#7871;n s&aacute;ng ng&agrave;y th&#7913; t&#432;, l&agrave; ng&agrave;y chu&#7849;n b&#7883; &#273;&#7875; b&#432;&#7899;c v&agrave;o thi&#7873;n qu&aacute;n th&igrave; s&#7889; l&#7847;n m&igrave;nh c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c tr&#7885;n v&#7865;n m&#7897;t h&#417;i h&iacute;t v&agrave;o v&agrave; th&#7903; ra &#273;&#7871;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c tr&ecirc;n &#273;&#7847;u ng&oacute;n tay. M&igrave;nh b&#7883; d&#7857;n v&#7863;t b&#7903;i c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7883;nh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c t&acirc;m, v&igrave; nh&#432; s&#432; c&ocirc; n&oacute;i th&igrave; c&#7847;n thi&#7871;t ph&#7843;i b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u &#273;&#7883;nh t&acirc;m r&#7891;i th&igrave; m&#7899;i c&oacute; th&#7875; qu&aacute;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c. &#272;&#7871;n bu&#7893;i chi&#7873;u h&#7885;c v&agrave; th&#7921;c h&agrave;nh thi&#7873;n qu&aacute;n r&#7891;i m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n b&#7883; &aacute;m &#7843;nh b&#7903;i c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#7883;nh n&ecirc;n s&#7869; qu&aacute;n kh&ocirc;ng hi&#7879;u qu&#7843;.Cho &#273;&#7871;n bu&#7893;i t&#7889;i, sau khi xong gi&#7901; thi&#7873;n t&#7889;i, b&#7885;n m&igrave;nh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nghe s&#432; c&ocirc; gi&#7843;ng ph&aacute;p. V&igrave; b&agrave;i gi&#7843;ng n&agrave;o c&#7911;a s&#432; c&ocirc; c&#361;ng r&#7845;t hay n&ecirc;n m&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng r&#7845;t ch&#259;m ch&uacute; l&#7855;ng nghe. &#272;ang &#273;&#259;m chi&ecirc;u ng&#7851;m ngh&#297;, m&igrave;nh nh&igrave;n xu&#7889;ng d&#432;&#7899;i ch&acirc;n, c&oacute; m&#7897;t con mu&#7895;i &#273;ang mi&#7879;t m&agrave;i h&uacute;t m&aacute;u c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. Theo qu&aacute;n t&iacute;nh, m&igrave;nh &#273;&#432;a tay qu&#7879;t nh&#7865; v&#7899;i &yacute; &#273;&#7883;nh &#273;u&#7893;i n&oacute; &#273;i. Nh&#432;ng, kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t l&agrave; do tay m&igrave;nh chuy&#7875;n &#273;&#7897;ng qu&aacute; nhanh hay con mu&#7895;i &#7845;y &#273;ang no say n&ecirc;n kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng k&#7883;p m&agrave; con qu&#7875; nh&#7887; &#7845;y &#273;&atilde; ch&#7871;t b&#7845;t &#273;&#7855;c k&#7923; t&#7917; trong tay m&igrave;nh.&Ocirc;i m&#7865; &#417;i, th&#7871; l&agrave; m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; ph&#7841;m gi&#7899;i s&aacute;t sinh.Tim m&igrave;nh b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u &#273;&#7853;p lo&#7841;n x&#7841;, hoang mang, lo l&#7855;ng, m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; t&#7853;p trung nghe &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7919;ng g&igrave; s&#432; c&ocirc; gi&#7843;ng n&#7919;a m&agrave; ch&#7881; ngh&#297; &#273;&#7871;n vi&#7879;c m&igrave;nh ph&#7841;m gi&#7899;i r&#7891;i, con mu&#7895;i &#7845;y n&aacute;t b&#7845;y r&#7891;i, gi&#7901; m&igrave;nh ph&#7843;i l&agrave;m sao &#273;&acirc;y. T&#7915; l&uacute;c &#273;&oacute; cho &#273;&#7871;n khi k&#7871;t th&uacute;c b&agrave;i gi&#7843;ng, &#273;&#7871;n khi v&#7873; ph&ograve;ng &#273;i ng&#7911; tim m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n c&#7913; &#273;&#7853;p th&igrave;nh th&#7883;ch, hoang mang. Ch&iacute;nh l&uacute;c &#273;&oacute;, m&igrave;nh m&#7899;i bi&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#7883;nh l&agrave; nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o. Th&igrave; ra m&#7845;y ng&agrave;y tr&#432;&#7899;c d&ugrave; kh&oacute; ng&#7911;, hay m&#417; r&#7891;i gi&#7853;t m&igrave;nh t&#7881;nh d&#7853;y gi&#7919;a &#273;&ecirc;m nh&#432;ng v&#7851;n kh&ocirc;ng kh&oacute; ch&#7883;u nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;y. M&#7845;y ng&agrave;y tr&#432;&#7899;c d&ugrave; ng&#7891;i kh&oacute; ch&#7883;u nh&#432;ng nh&#7883;p tim v&agrave; h&#417;i th&#7903; c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n y&ecirc;n &#7893;n. Th&#7871; m&#7899;i bi&#7871;t tr&#432;&#7899;c gi&#7901; m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n &#273;i t&igrave;m c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c &#273;&#7883;nh t&acirc;m g&igrave; cao si&ecirc;u theo suy ngh&#297; c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh m&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng &yacute; th&#7913;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c r&#7857;ng m&igrave;nh b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c t&acirc;m an &#7893;n, &#273;ang &#273;i tr&ecirc;n &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng t&#7899;i tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i &#273;&#7883;nh r&#7891;i. Cho d&ugrave; c&oacute; th&#7875; ch&#432;a &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nhi&#7873;u nh&#432;ng ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n l&agrave; nh&#7901; c&ocirc;ng t&#7853;p luy&#7879;n g&#7847;n b&#7889;n ng&agrave;y v&#7915;a r&#7891;i m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng &#273;&atilde; c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ch&uacute;t &iacute;t. &#272;&uacute;ng l&agrave; c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u th&#7913; m&agrave; khi m&#7845;t &#273;i r&#7891;i m&#7899;i nh&#7853;n ra &#273;&#432;&#7907;c l&agrave; m&igrave;nh &#273;ang c&oacute;.R&#7891;i m&igrave;nh ngh&#297; &#273;&#7871;n chuy&#7879;n c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng v&#7853;y, c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u l&uacute;c m&igrave;nh c&#7913; &#273;&#7855;n &#273;o, suy ngh&#297; v&#7873; vi&#7879;c m&#7885;i th&#7913; kh&ocirc;ng m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng h&igrave;nh dung khi m&igrave;nh m&#7899;i b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u. Sau bao th&#7901;i gian tr&ocirc;i qua, m&#7885;i th&#7913; c&oacute; v&#7867; v&#7851;n ch&#7859;ng kh&aacute;c g&igrave; so v&#7899;i ng&agrave;y &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n, &#273;&ocirc;i khi c&ograve;n c&oacute; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c l&agrave; n&oacute; &#273;ang t&#7879; h&#417;n n&#7919;a. D&ugrave; m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n h&#7885;c, v&#7851;n d&#7841;y nh&#432;ng &#273;&ocirc;i khi v&#7851;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; bi&#7871;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ch&iacute;nh x&aacute;c &#273;i&#7873;u m&igrave;nh &#273;ang l&agrave;m s&#7869; t&#7841;o ra &#273;&#432;&#7907;c k&#7871;t qu&#7843; l&agrave; g&igrave; khi&#7871;n ch&iacute;nh b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh v&#7851;n b&#7883; r&#417;i v&agrave;o tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i n&#7843;n l&ograve;ng v&agrave; m&#7845;t ph&#432;&#417;ng h&#432;&#7899;ng. &#272;&#7871;n khi g&#7863;p s&#7921; c&#7889; v&#7899;i con mu&#7895;i &#273;&atilde; khi&#7871;n m&igrave;nh nh&#7853;n ra &#273;&#432;&#7907;c l&agrave; t&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng th&#7913; m&igrave;nh &#273;ang l&agrave;m, d&ugrave; &iacute;t d&ugrave; nhi&#7873;u, ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n &#273;ang l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng b&#432;&#7899;c nh&#7887;, m&#7897;t ch&uacute;t, m&#7897;t ch&uacute;t ti&#7871;n &#273;&#7871;n g&#7847;n v&#7899;i &#273;&iacute;ch &#273;&#7871;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. Ch&#7881; l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng th&#7913; m&igrave;nh &#273;ang l&agrave;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7871;n hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i ch&#432;a gi&#7889;ng v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng g&igrave; m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; h&igrave;nh dung v&agrave; mong mu&#7889;n n&ecirc;n m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; kh&ocirc;ng nh&#7853;n ra &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;.C&oacute; th&#7875; b&acirc;y gi&#7901; ch&#432;a c&oacute; g&igrave; hi&#7879;n ra r&otilde; r&agrave;ng, nh&#432;ng ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n l&agrave; n&oacute; &#273;ang h&igrave;nh th&agrave;nh r&#7891;i. Ho&agrave;n to&agrave;n h&ocirc;ng c&oacute; c&ocirc;ng s&#7913;c n&agrave;o b&#7887; ra l&agrave; v&ocirc; &iacute;ch, ch&#7881; c&#7847;n ki&ecirc;n tr&igrave;, ch&#259;m ch&#7881; th&igrave; m&igrave;nh s&#7869; &#273;&#7871;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&iacute;ch. Nh&#7919;ng th&#7913; m&igrave;nh &#273;ang gieo tr&#7891;ng gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; &#273;ang ch&#259;m s&oacute;c cho m&#7897;t h&#7841;t m&#7847;m. M&igrave;nh c&#7913; ch&#259;m b&oacute;n t&#432;&#7899;i n&#432;&#7899;c ng&agrave;y qua ng&agrave;y m&agrave; v&#7851;n ch&#432;a th&#7845;y c&oacute; g&igrave; thay &#273;&#7893;i c&#7843;. Th&#7853;t ra h&#7841;t m&#7847;m &#7845;y v&#7851;n &#273;ang l&#7899;n l&ecirc;n t&#7915;ng ng&agrave;y m&#7897;t, r&#7877; c&acirc;y &#273;ang ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n &#7849;n s&acirc;u d&#432;&#7899;i m&#7863;t &#273;&#7845;t m&agrave; m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; nh&igrave;n th&#7845;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c cho &#273;&#7871;n m&#7897;t ng&agrave;y, m&#7847;m c&acirc;y &#7845;y tr&#7891;i l&ecirc;n m&#7863;t &#273;&#7845;t &#273;&#7875; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng &#273;&oacute;n &aacute;nh m&#7863;t tr&#7901;i.

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