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L&#7921;a ch&#7885;n thay &#273;&#7893;i m&#7897;t ho&#7863;c nhi&#7873;u &#273;&#7863;c &#273;i&#7875;m t&iacute;nh c&aacute;ch c&#7911;a b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i l&agrave; gi&#7843; t&#7841;o, m&agrave; &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; &#273;&#7875; b&#7841;n c&oacute; th&#7875; s&#7889;ng h&ograve;a h&#7907;p h&#417;n v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng hy v&#7885;ng v&agrave; kh&aacute;t v&#7885;ng c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng. Nh&#7919;ng hy v&#7885;ng v&agrave; mong mu&#7889;n &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; m&#7897;t ph&#7847;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n. Nh&#432;ng c&aacute;c &#273;&#7863;c &#273;i&#7875;m t&iacute;nh c&aacute;ch c&#7911;a b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng ho&agrave;n to&agrave;n bao g&#7891;m t&#7845;t c&#7843; con ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7911;a b&#7841;n m&agrave; n&oacute; c&ograve;n c&oacute; gi&aacute; tr&#7883;, ni&#7873;m &#273;am m&ecirc;, &#273;&#7841;o &#273;&#7913;c, s&#7903; th&iacute;ch v&agrave; tham v&#7885;ng c&#7911;a b&#7841;n.&nbsp;Nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#432;&#7899;ng n&#7897;i t&#7921; h&agrave;o v&#7873; s&#7921; tr&#7847;m l&#7863;ng v&agrave; d&egrave; d&#7863;t h&#417;n c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n, v&agrave; nh&#432; l&#7869; th&#432;&#7901;ng t&igrave;nh, h&#7885; c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng ph&#7843;n &#273;&#7889;i quan &#273;i&#7875;m r&#7857;ng h&#7885; n&ecirc;n thay &#273;&#7893;i &#273;&#7875; h&ograve;a nh&#7853;p v&#7899;i m&#7897;t th&#7871; gi&#7899;i &#7891;n &agrave;o. N&#7871;u b&#7841;n ho&agrave;n to&agrave;n h&agrave;i l&ograve;ng v&#7899;i hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&agrave; b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng c&#7843;m th&#7845;y h&#432;&#7899;ng n&#7897;i l&agrave; m&#7897;t tr&#7903; ng&#7841;i &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng g&igrave; quan tr&#7885;ng &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i b&#7841;n trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng, th&igrave; &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; m&#7897;t n&#417;i tuy&#7879;t v&#7901;i. Kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i ai c&#361;ng c&#7847;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y &aacute;p l&#7921;c khi ph&#7843;i h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#432;&#7899;ng ngo&#7841;i ch&#7881; &#273;&#7875; ph&ugrave; h&#7907;p v&#7899;i k&#7923; v&#7885;ng v&#259;n h&oacute;a.Tuy nhi&ecirc;n, n&#7871;u b&#7841;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y th&#7845;t v&#7885;ng v&igrave; m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; h&#432;&#7899;ng n&#7897;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh - n&#7871;u b&#7841;n c&oacute; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c kh&ocirc;ng h&agrave;i l&ograve;ng r&#7857;ng kh&aacute;t v&#7885;ng v&agrave; nhu c&#7847;u k&#7871;t n&#7889;i c&#7911;a b&#7841;n b&#7883; c&#7843;n tr&#7903; b&#7903;i s&#7921; ch&aacute;n gh&eacute;t c&#7911;a b&#7841;n &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i r&#7911;i ro, th&#7917; th&aacute;ch v&agrave; t&#432;&#417;ng t&aacute;c x&atilde; h&#7897;i - th&igrave; vi&#7879;c trau d&#7891;i m&#7897;t nh&acirc;n c&aacute;ch h&#432;&#7899;ng ngo&#7841;i h&#417;n kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i l&agrave; gi&#7843; t&#7841;o hay kh&ocirc;ng ch&acirc;n th&#7921;c.Ti&#7871;n s&#297; T&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c x&atilde; h&#7897;i - nh&acirc;n c&aacute;ch Rodica Damian c&oacute; n&oacute;i: &ldquo;Ch&uacute;ng ta li&#7879;u s&#7869; cho r&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i thay &#273;&#7893;i l&#7889;i s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a h&#7885; &#273;&#7875; &#259;n u&#7889;ng l&agrave;nh m&#7841;nh h&#417;n h&agrave;ng ng&agrave;y l&agrave; gi&#7843; t&#7841;o ch&#7881; v&igrave; h&#7885; &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng &#259;n u&#7889;ng kh&ocirc;ng l&agrave;nh m&#7841;nh tr&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&acirc;y? H&#7885; ch&#7881; &#273;&#432;a ra l&#7921;a ch&#7885;n cho ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh, h&#7885; c&oacute; &#273;&#7911; ngu&#7891;n l&#7921;c &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#432;a ra l&#7921;a ch&#7885;n &#273;&oacute; v&agrave; l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c v&#7899;i n&oacute; m&#7897;t c&aacute;ch nh&#7845;t qu&aacute;n cho &#273;&#7871;n khi c&oacute; s&#7921; thay &#273;&#7893;i&rdquo;.Nh&#7919;ng c&#7843;m nh&#7853;n n&agrave;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c h&#7895; tr&#7907; b&#7903;i nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u c&#7911;a c&aacute;c t&aacute;c gi&#7843; <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/action/doSearch?ContribAuthorRaw=Lenton%2C+Alison+P" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Alison P. Lenton</a>, <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/action/doSearch?ContribAuthorRaw=Sedikides%2C+Constantine" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Constantine Sedikides</a> v&agrave; c&#7897;ng s&#7921;. Nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u y&ecirc;u c&#7847;u ng&#432;&#7901;i tham gia vi&#7871;t v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng th&#7901;i &#273;i&#7875;m m&agrave; h&#7885; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y ch&acirc;n th&#7921;c nh&#7845;t trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng; k&#7871;t qu&#7843; l&agrave; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng b&aacute;o c&aacute;o c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c ch&acirc;n th&#7921;c m&#7897;t c&aacute;ch th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n h&#417;n trong c&aacute;c t&igrave;nh hu&#7889;ng m&agrave; h&#7885; &#273;ang h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng ph&ugrave; h&#7907;p v&#7899;i 'con ng&#432;&#7901;i l&yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng' c&#7911;a h&#7885;, t&#7913;c l&agrave; gi&#7889;ng v&#7899;i ki&#7875;u ng&#432;&#7901;i m&agrave; h&#7885; mong mu&#7889;n tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh, h&#417;n l&agrave; con ng&#432;&#7901;i hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i th&#7921;c t&#7871; c&#7911;a h&#7885;. T&#432;&#417;ng t&#7921;, nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u kh&aacute;c c&#7911;a <a href="https://osf.io/veqh5/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent;">Joshua Wilt</a>, Jessie Sun, Rowan Jacques-Hamilton, Luke Smillie &#273;&atilde; ch&#7881; ra r&#7857;ng, b&#7845;t k&#7875; &#273;&#7863;c &#273;i&#7875;m c&#417; b&#7843;n c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng ta l&agrave; g&igrave;, ta c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng c&#7843;m th&#7845;y ch&acirc;n th&#7921;c h&#417;n khi&nbsp; h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng h&#432;&#7899;ng ngo&#7841;i h&#417;n - c&oacute; th&#7875; v&igrave; ch&uacute;ng ta c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u kh&#7843; n&#259;ng h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng theo c&aacute;ch n&agrave;y khi ch&uacute;ng ta c&#7843;m th&#7845;y vui v&#7867;, t&#7921; tin, h&ograve;a &#273;&#7891;ng v&agrave; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c k&#7871;t n&#7889;i. Nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u c&#7911;a Muping Gan , Serena Chen &#273;&atilde; ph&aacute;t hi&#7879;n ra r&#7857;ng m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng b&aacute;o c&aacute;o r&#7857;ng h&#7885; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y ch&acirc;n th&#7921;c h&#417;n trong c&aacute;c m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; m&agrave; trong &#273;&oacute; &#273;&#7889;i t&aacute;c (partner) c&#7911;a h&#7885; cho ph&eacute;p h&#7885; h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng nh&#432; l&agrave; l&yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng c&#7911;a h&#7885; (ch&#7913; kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i l&agrave; con ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#7921;c c&#7911;a h&#7885;).T&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng ph&aacute;t hi&#7879;n n&agrave;y n&oacute;i l&ecirc;n m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7873;u r&#7857;ng b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng n&ecirc;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7883; r&agrave;ng bu&#7897;c v&agrave;o m&#7897;t kh&aacute;i ni&#7879;m th&#7847;n b&iacute; n&agrave;o &#273;&oacute; v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng g&igrave; t&#7841;o n&ecirc;n b&#7841;n. Vi&#7879;c t&igrave;m c&aacute;ch thay &#273;&#7893;i s&#7869; kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;n b&#7841;n tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&ocirc;ng trung th&#7921;c v&#7899;i ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh. H&atilde;y nh&#7899; r&#7857;ng d&ugrave; th&#7871; n&agrave;o b&#7841;n c&#361;ng s&#7869; thay &#273;&#7893;i - m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y, khi b&#7841;n h&#7885;c h&#7887;i nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u m&#7899;i v&agrave; s&#7889;ng qua nh&#7919;ng tr&#7843;i nghi&#7879;m, cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng s&#7869; &#273;&#7875; l&#7841;i d&#7845;u &#7845;n trong b&#7841;n. B&#7841;n l&agrave; m&#7897;t &ldquo;m&#7847;m c&acirc;y&rdquo; &#273;ang l&#7899;n v&agrave; n&#7871;u c&oacute; b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave;, t&igrave;m c&aacute;ch ki&#7875;m so&aacute;t c&oacute; ch&#7911; &#273;&iacute;ch c&oacute; th&#7875; l&agrave; c&aacute;ch b&#7841;n tr&#432;&#7903;ng th&agrave;nh v&agrave; ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n - tr&ecirc;n th&#7921;c t&#7871;, b&#7841;n &#273;ang s&#7889;ng th&#7853;t v&#7899;i ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch mang l&#7841;i nh&#7919;ng thay &#273;&#7893;i m&agrave; b&#7841;n mong mu&#7889;n.V&igrave; v&#7853;y, &#273;&#7915;ng &#273;&#7875; b&#7845;t c&#7913; ai n&oacute;i v&#7899;i b&#7841;n r&#7857;ng b&#7841;n n&ecirc;n tr&#7889;n trong v&#7887; b&#7885;c c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&igrave; &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; 'b&#7841;n'. N&#7871;u b&#7841;n mu&#7889;n &ldquo;th&ograve; &#273;&#7847;u&rdquo; ra ngo&agrave;i v&agrave; s&#7889;ng nguy hi&#7875;m h&#417;n m&#7897;t ch&uacute;t, h&atilde;y l&agrave;m &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;. T&agrave;i li&#7879;u tham kh&#7843;o:1. Wilt, Joshua A., Jessie Sun, Rowan Jacques-Hamilton, and Luke D. Smillie. 2021. &ldquo;Why Does It Feel Authentic to Be and Act Extraverted? Exploring the Mediating Role of Positive Affect.&rdquo; PsyArXiv, March 19. DOI:10.31234/osf.io/7mj6g.2. Muping Gan, Serena Chen (2017), &ldquo;Being Your Actual or Ideal Self? What It Means to Feel Authentic in a Relationship&rdquo;, Sage Journal, Vol 3, Issue 4, February 13,&nbsp; DOI: 10.1177%2F01461672166882113. <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/action/doSearch?ContribAuthorRaw=Lenton%2C+Alison+P" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Alison P. Lenton</a>, <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/action/doSearch?ContribAuthorRaw=Sedikides%2C+Constantine" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Constantine Sedikides</a> v&agrave; c&#7897;ng s&#7921; (2012), How Does &ldquo;Being Real&rdquo; Feel? The Experience of State Authenticity, Journal of Personality, Vol 81, Issue 3 (p.276-289), DOI:10.1111/j.1467-6494.2012.00805.x4. PhD Christian Jarrett, How to come out of your shell, Psyche. 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