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<html><body>N&#7871;u b&#7841;n h&#7887;i m&igrave;nh vi&#7879;c m&agrave; m&igrave;nh c&#7843;m th&#7845;y t&#7921; tin r&#7857;ng m&igrave;nh gi&#7887;i nh&#7845;t, m&igrave;nh s&#7869; tr&#7843; l&#7901;i ngay: &ldquo;M&igrave;nh gi&#7887;i vi&#7879;c quan s&aacute;t nh&#7845;t&rdquo;. Nh&#432;ng c&oacute; l&#7869; vi&#7879;c m&igrave;nh gi&#7887;i kh&ocirc;ng nh&#7901; vi&#7879;c m&igrave;nh c&#7889; g&#7855;ng luy&#7879;n t&#7853;p quan s&aacute;t h&#7857;ng ng&agrave;y m&agrave; m&igrave;nh th&#7921;c s&#7921; y&ecirc;u th&iacute;ch n&oacute;. &ldquo;V&#7853;y b&#7841;n quan s&aacute;t th&#7871; n&agrave;o?&rdquo; c&oacute; l&#7869; s&#7869; l&agrave; m&#7897;t trong nh&#7919;ng c&acirc;u h&#7887;i ti&#7871;p theo m&agrave; b&#7841;n mu&#7889;n h&#7887;i m&igrave;nh. M&igrave;nh s&#7869; tr&#7843; l&#7901;i ngay: &ldquo;M&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t, m&igrave;nh ch&#7881; bi&#7871;t h&atilde;y nh&igrave;n nh&#7919;ng g&igrave; b&#7841;n th&iacute;ch, nh&#432;ng hay nh&igrave;n n&oacute; th&#7853;t k&#7929;, nh&igrave;n n&oacute; m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y, &#273;&#7863;t c&acirc;u h&#7887;i cho n&oacute;, th&ecirc;m ch&uacute;t t&ograve; m&ograve;, thay &#273;&#7893;i g&oacute;c nh&igrave;n c&#7911;a b&#7841;n. M&igrave;nh ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n b&#7841;n s&#7869; h&#7885;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nhi&#7873;u th&#7913; t&#7915; nh&#7919;ng th&#7913; m&agrave; b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; nh&#7901; &#273;&#7871;n.&rdquo;Su&#7889;t kho&#7843;ng th&#7901;i gian &#273;i h&#7885;c c&#7845;p 1 v&agrave; c&#7845;p 2, ng&agrave;y n&agrave;o m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng &#273;i qua c&#7847;u Ch&#432;&#417;ng D&#432;&#417;ng r&#7891;i &#273;i qua khu Ph&#7889; c&#7893; &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#7871;n tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7885;c. M&igrave;nh th&iacute;ch ng&#7855;m ca&#769;c con ph&#7889; c&#7893; m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y t&#7915; v&#7883; tr&iacute; ng&#7891;i sau xe m&aacute;y c&#7911;a b&#7889;. B&#7841;n c&oacute; l&#7869; s&#7869; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y m&#7885;i th&#7913; b&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng n&#7871;u nh&#432; ng&agrave;y n&agrave;o c&#361;ng nh&igrave;n th&#7845;y ch&uacute;ng ph&#7843;i kh&ocirc;ng? N&#7871;u v&#7853;y h&atilde;y th&#7917; thay &#273;&#7893;i c&aacute;ch m&agrave; b&#7841;n nh&igrave;n ng&#7855;m ch&uacute;ng. M&igrave;nh v&#7851;n nh&#7899; ng&agrave;y h&ocirc;m &#273;&oacute;, m&igrave;nh &#273;ang ng&aacute;i ng&#7911; v&agrave; ng&aacute;p m&#7897;t c&aacute;i th&#7853;t to, v&ocirc; t&igrave;nh khi&#7871;n m&igrave;nh ng&#7917;a m&#7863;t l&ecirc;n nh&igrave;n l&ecirc;n khu v&#7921;c t&#7847;ng 2 c&#7911;a d&atilde;y ph&#7889; H&agrave;ng B&#7841;c. M&igrave;nh ch&#7907;t th&#7845;y &#7911;a sao n&oacute; l&#7841;i kh&aacute;c l&#7841; &#273;&#7871;n th&#7871;, ng&agrave;y n&agrave;o m&igrave;nh c&#361;ng &#273;i qua nh&#7919;ng ch&#432;a bao gi&#7901; &#273;&#7875; &yacute; r&#7857;ng ch&uacute;ng l&#7841;i c&oacute; m&#7897;t v&#7867; &#273;&#7865;p kh&aacute;c bi&#7879;t &#273;&#7871;n v&#7853;y. T&#7915; &#273;&oacute; m&igrave;nh g&#7885;i &#273;&oacute; l&agrave; b&iacute; m&#7853;t c&#7911;a khu Ph&#7889; c&#7893; m&agrave; m&igrave;nh gi&#7919; cho ri&ecirc;ng m&igrave;nh.<figure class="image"><img src="https://miro.medium.com/max/60/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg?q=20"></figure><figure class="image"><img src="https://miro.medium.com/max/2000/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg" srcset="https://miro.medium.com/max/552/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg 276w, https://miro.medium.com/max/1104/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg 552w, https://miro.medium.com/max/1280/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg 640w, https://miro.medium.com/max/1400/1*G1GCmNMHw00MwpAycD3gQA.jpeg 700w" sizes="100vw" width="2000"></figure>Thi&#768; ra ca&#769;c nhi&ecirc;&#769;p a&#777;nh gia cu&#771;ng th&acirc;&#769;y &#273;i&ecirc;&#768;u na&#768;y r&ocirc;&#768;i!Sau n&agrave;y khi l&#7899;n l&ecirc;n, b&#7841;n b&egrave; c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i n&oacute;i r&#7857;ng m&igrave;nh l&#7841;c quan, l&uacute;c n&agrave;o c&#361;ng c&#432;&#7901;i n&oacute;i, v&ocirc; t&#432;. M&igrave;nh th&igrave; kh&ocirc;ng c&#7843;m th&#7845;y nh&#432; th&#7871;, ch&#7881; l&agrave; m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y m&igrave;nh s&#7869; t&igrave;m ra nh&#7919;ng ni&#7873;m vui nho nh&#7887;, gom g&oacute;p n&oacute; l&#7841;i, &#273;&#7911; &#273;&#7875; m&igrave;nh c&#7843;m th&#7845;y vui v&#7867; &#273;&#7871;n cu&#7889;i ng&agrave;y. Ni&#7873;m vui c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh c&oacute; khi ch&#7881; &#273;&#7871;n t&#7915; nh&#7919;ng c&acirc;u n&oacute;i trong cu&#7897;c tr&ograve; chuy&#7879;n h&agrave;ng ng&agrave;y c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&#7899;i &#273;&#7891;ng nghi&#7879;p, b&#7841;n b&egrave;, kh&aacute;ch h&agrave;ng, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; l&agrave; cu&#7897;c n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n c&#7911;a m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i l&uacute;c ch&#7901; d&#7915;ng &#273;&egrave;n &#273;&#7887; (m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng c&#7889; &yacute; nghe l&eacute;n &#273;&acirc;u ahaha, ch&#7881; l&agrave; h&#7885; n&oacute;i to v&agrave; &hellip;)Nh&#7919;ng n&#259;m &#273;&#7847;u c&#7911;a tu&#7893;i 20 nh&#432; bao b&#7841;n b&egrave; kh&aacute;c, m&igrave;nh nh&#7853;n ra r&#7857;ng th&igrave; ra m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7873;u g&#7863;p ph&#7843;i c&aacute;i &#273;&#432;&#7907;c g&#7885;i l&agrave; <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quarter-life_crisis">Quarter life crisis</a> (t&#7841;m d&#7883;ch: Kh&#7911;ng ho&#7843;ng tu&#7893;i 20). Ch&#7911; &#273;&#7873; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7855;c &#273;&#7871;n nhi&#7873;u nh&#7845;t trong m&#7895;i cu&#7897;c n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&#7899;i t&#7845;t c&#7843; b&#7841;n b&egrave; th&igrave; &#273;&#7871;n 80% l&agrave; v&#7873; c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c v&agrave; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u. &#7902; c&aacute;i tu&#7893;i v&#7915;a ra tr&#432;&#7901;ng, c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c ch&#432;a &#7893;n &#273;&#7883;nh, ki&#7871;n th&#7913;c, kinh nghi&#7879;m, k&#7929; n&#259;ng,&hellip; T&#7845;t c&#7843; &#273;&#7873;u g&#7847;n nh&#432; &#7903; v&#7841;ch xu&#7845;t ph&aacute;t, ch&uacute;ng ta d&#7877; r&#417;i v&agrave;o tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i n&agrave;y v&agrave; th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n suy ngh&#297;, &#273;au &#273;&aacute;u v&#7873; n&oacute;. V&#7853;y n&#7871;u b&#7841;n n&agrave;o &#273;ang c&#7843;m th&#7845;y m&igrave;nh &#273;ang trong tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i n&agrave;y th&igrave; m&igrave;nh xin h&#7887;i b&#7841;n 1 c&acirc;u:<blockquote>Ba&#803;n g&#259;&#803;p m&ocirc;&#803;t v&acirc;&#769;n &#273;&ecirc;&#768;, b&#7841;n ngh&#297; suy ngh&#297; l&#7847;n 1, l&#7847;n 2, b&#7841;n lo l&#7855;ng, chuy&#7879;n &#273;&#432;&#417;ng nhi&ecirc;n r&#7891;i. Nh&#432;ng m&igrave;nh h&#7887;i b&#7841;n, n&#7871;u b&#7841;n suy ngh&#297; &#273;&#7871;n l&#7847;n th&#7913; 17 v&agrave; ti&#7871;p t&#7909;c lo l&#7855;ng v&#7873; n&oacute;, ba&#803;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y n&oacute; c&oacute; &iacute;ch ch&#7913;?</blockquote>Mi&#768;nh la&#803;c quan kh&ocirc;ng pha&#777;i vi&#768; mi&#768;nh sinh ra &#273;a&#771; th&ecirc;&#769;ma&#768; chi&#777; &#273;&#417;n gia&#777;n la&#768; mi&#768;nh l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n s&#432;&#803; la&#803;c quan. Mi&#768;nh r&acirc;&#769;t thi&#769;ch quan ni&ecirc;&#803;m v&ecirc;&#768; s&#432;&#803; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n cu&#777;a Stephen R.Covey trong cu&ocirc;&#769;n &ldquo;7 tho&#769;i quen hi&ecirc;&#803;u qua&#777;&rdquo;. &Ocirc;ng cho r&#259;&#768;ng, s&#432;&#769;c ma&#803;nh cu&#777;a con ng&#432;&#417;&#768;i n&#259;&#768;m &#417;&#777; s&#432;&#803; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n, &#273;o&#769; la&#768; &#273;i&ecirc;&#768;u kha&#769;c bi&ecirc;&#803;t khi&ecirc;&#769;n con ng&#432;&#417;&#768;i v&#417;&#769;i ca&#769;c loa&#768;i &#273;&ocirc;&#803;ng v&acirc;&#803;t kha&#769;c. Chu&#769;ng ta co&#769; th&ecirc;&#777; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n h&ocirc;m nay &#259;n ca&#769;i na&#768;y, nga&#768;y mai &#259;n ca&#769;i kia, co&#768;n nh&#432;&#771;ng con v&acirc;&#803;t ma&#768; ba&#803;n co&#769; th&ecirc;&#777; &#273;ang nu&ocirc;i trong nha&#768;, chu&#769;ng ta cho no&#769; &#259;n gi&#768; thi&#768; no&#769; &#259;n n&acirc;&#769;y, chu&#769;ng kh&ocirc;ng co&#769; s&#432;&#803; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n. V&acirc;&#803;y thi&#768; ta&#803;i sao chu&#769;ng ta kh&ocirc;ng d&#432;&#768;ng la&#803;i 1 gi&acirc;y khi ti&ecirc;&#769;p nh&acirc;&#803;n v&acirc;&#769;n &#273;&ecirc;&#768; &#273;&ecirc;&#777; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n ca&#769;ch pha&#777;n &#432;&#769;ng ma&#768; la&#803;i pha&#777;n &#432;&#769;ng ngay l&acirc;&#803;p t&#432;&#769;c theo ba&#777;n n&#259;ng?Quan ni&ecirc;&#803;m na&#768;y lu&ocirc;n t&ocirc;&#768;n ta&#803;i trong mi&#768;nh, giu&#769;p mi&#768;nh tr&#432;&#417;&#777;ng tha&#768;nh h&#417;n, suy nghi&#771; s&acirc;u s&#259;&#769;c h&#417;n va&#768; tr&ecirc;n h&ecirc;&#769;t, mi&#768;nh l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n s&ocirc;&#769;ng la&#803;c quan, vui ve&#777; m&ocirc;&#771;i nga&#768;y, l&acirc;u d&acirc;&#768;n l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n na&#768;y tr&#417;&#777; tha&#768;nh tho&#769;i quen ha&#768;ng nga&#768;y cu&#777;a mi&#768;nh. Mi&#768;nh thoa&#777;i ma&#769;i h&#417;n v&#417;&#769;i mo&#803;i th&#432;&#769;, mi&#768;nh bi&#768;nh ti&#771;nh l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n ca&#769;ch pha&#777;n &#432;&#769;ng v&#417;&#769;i m&ocirc;&#771;i v&acirc;&#769;n &#273;&ecirc;&#768;. Va&#768; khi k&ecirc;&#769;t h&#417;&#803;p v&#417;&#769;i vi&ecirc;&#803;c thay &#273;&ocirc;&#777;i go&#769;c nhi&#768;n thi&#768; mi&#768;nh t&#432;&#803; ta&#803;o ra cho ba&#777;n th&acirc;n nhi&ecirc;&#768;u s&#432;&#803; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n h&#417;n. Ngay nga&#768;y mai, khi ba&#803;n ngu&#777; d&acirc;&#803;y, ba&#803;n se&#771; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n s&ocirc;&#769;ng m&ocirc;&#803;t nga&#768;y vui ve&#777;, thoa&#777;i ma&#769;i hay m&ocirc;&#803;t nga&#768;y v&acirc;&#771;n nh&#432; bao nga&#768;y kha&#769;c?<a href="https://www.facebook.com/mentor.youth.com.vn">Cu&ocirc;&#803;c s&ocirc;&#769;ng</a> la&#768; t&acirc;&#803;p h&#417;&#803;p nh&#432;&#771;ng s&#432;&#803; l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n ca&#769;ch ma&#768; ba&#803;n pha&#777;n &#432;&#769;ng v&#417;&#769;i no&#769;. Chu&#769;ng ta l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n, la&#768;m chu&#777; cu&ocirc;&#803;c s&ocirc;&#769;ng cu&#777;a mi&#768;nh ch&#432;&#769; kh&ocirc;ng h&ecirc;&#768; phu&#803; thu&ocirc;&#803;c va&#768;o b&acirc;&#769;t c&#432;&#769; th&#432;&#769; gi&#768;. V&acirc;&#803;y thi&#768; ta&#803;i sao ba&#803;n kh&ocirc;ng l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n m&ocirc;&#803;t cu&ocirc;&#803;c s&ocirc;&#769;ng &#273;&acirc;&#768;y s&#432;&#803; la&#803;c quan, ti&#769;ch c&#432;&#803;c ma&#768; v&ocirc;&#769;n no&#769; lu&ocirc;n lu&ocirc;n la&#768; m&ocirc;&#803;t l&#432;&#803;a cho&#803;n ma&#768; ba&#803;n &#273;ang bo&#777; ngo&#777; nhi&#777;?</body></html>

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