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Khi &#273;&#7875; &yacute; quan s&aacute;t nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh, b&#7841;n s&#7869; nh&#7853;n ra nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng c&oacute; nh&#7919;ng &yacute; ngh&#297; l&#7841; l&ugrave;ng h&#417;n nh&#7919;ng k&#7867; th&#7845;t b&#7841;i hay ph&agrave;n n&agrave;n, h&#7885; c&oacute; c&aacute;ch th&#7875; hi&#7879;n &yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng kh&aacute;c bi&#7879;t v&agrave; h&#7885; l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c ch&#259;m ch&#7881; g&#7845;p 10 l&#7847;n ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c.&nbsp;&#272;i&#7873;u quan tr&#7885;ng &#273;&#7875; &#273;&#7841;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i l&agrave; con &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng b&#7841;n &#273;i d&#7877; hay kh&oacute; m&agrave; l&agrave; b&#7841;n c&oacute; ch&#7885;n &#273;&uacute;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh d&#7851;n &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng ch&#7881; l&#7889;i cho b&#7841;n tr&ecirc;n ch&#7863;ng &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&oacute; hay kh&ocirc;ng. B&#7841;n c&oacute; bi&#7871;t, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c k&#7871;t qu&#7843; nh&#432; mong mu&#7889;n trong cu&#7897;c s&ocirc;ng l&#7841;i th&#432;&#7901;ng ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng k&#7867; khi&#7871;n t&acirc;m tr&iacute; c&#7911;a b&#7841;n r&#7889;i tung l&ecirc;n.H&#7885; hay n&oacute;i v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; l&agrave;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c, ho&#7863;c l&agrave; vi&#7879;c n&agrave;y kh&oacute; l&#7855;m, ho&#7863;c l&agrave; vi&#7879;c kia ch&#7859;ng c&oacute; &yacute; ngh&#297;a g&igrave; h&#7871;t. H&atilde;y th&#7917; m&#7897;t l&#7847;n n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng xem suy ngh&#297; c&#7911;a h&#7885; th&#7871; n&agrave;o nh&eacute;! S&#7913; m&#7879;nh c&#7911;a b&#7841;n l&agrave; l&agrave;m nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u l&#7899;n lao, l&agrave;m nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i tr&#7867; &#273;&#7847;y kh&aacute;t v&#7885;ng v&agrave; ho&agrave;i b&atilde;o.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">1. C&acirc;u n&oacute;i &ldquo;T&ocirc;i kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; thay &#273;&#7893;i th&#7871; gi&#7899;i&rdquo; kh&ocirc;ng n&#7857;m trong t&#7915; &#273;i&#7875;n c&#7911;a h&#7885;.</h4>Kh&ocirc;ng c&#7847;n bi&#7871;t b&#7841;n sinh ra &#7903; &#273;&acirc;u, c&oacute; bao nhi&ecirc;u &#273;i&#7873;u b&#7841;n &#273;&atilde; h&#7885;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c, hay b&#7841;n c&oacute; bao nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; th&#7875; b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u, th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng th&#7921;c ch&#7845;t l&agrave; ni&#7873;m tin c&#7911;a b&#7841;n v&agrave;o kh&#7843; n&#259;ng thay &#273;&#7893;i th&#7871; gi&#7899;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. M&#7895;i ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&#7873;u c&oacute; m&#7897;t ngu&#7891;n s&#7913;c m&#7841;nh ti&#7873;m &#7849;n &#273;&#7875; l&agrave;m nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u kh&ocirc;ng t&#432;&#7903;ng.Ch&uacute;ng ta kh&ocirc;ng c&#7847;n b&#7845;t c&#7913; ai t&ocirc;n s&ugrave;ng m&igrave;nh l&ecirc;n l&agrave;m m&#7897;t thi&ecirc;n t&agrave;i c&#7911;a th&#7871; gi&#7899;i hay m&#7897;t hi&#7879;n t&#432;&#7907;ng c&#7911;a c&ocirc;ng ch&uacute;ng. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng &#7845;y gi&uacute;p ch&uacute;ng ta tin v&agrave;o b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh, d&#7851;n ch&uacute;ng ta t&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p h&#417;n. Thay &#273;&#7893;i t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c l&agrave; ti&#7873;n &#273;&#7873; cho nh&#7919;ng b&#432;&#7899;c chuy&#7875;n ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n c&#7911;a con ng&#432;&#7901;i&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">2. H&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7863;t ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave;o may m&#7855;n</h4>&ldquo;May m&#7855;n l&agrave; khi h&agrave;nh trang g&#7863;p th&#7901;i c&#417;&rdquo; &ndash; Oprah WinfreyThay v&igrave; &#273;&#7863;t ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave;o may m&#7855;n nh&#432; m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7873;u k&igrave; di&#7879;u, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng tin t&#432;&#7903;ng tuy&#7879;t &#273;&#7889;i v&agrave;o s&#7921; nhi&#7879;t huy&#7871;t v&agrave; c&#7889; g&#7855;ng kh&ocirc;ng ng&#7915;ng ngh&#7881; c&#7911;a ch&iacute;nh b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh.&nbsp;&#272;&#7915;ng ch&#7901; &#273;&#7907;i m&#7897;t th&#7901;i c&#417; t&#7889;t nh&#7845;t b&#7903;i v&igrave; ch&#7859;ng c&oacute; &ldquo;th&#7901;i &#273;i&#7875;m v&agrave;ng&rdquo; &#273;&#7875; l&agrave;m b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave;. Ch&iacute;nh ch&uacute;ng ta l&agrave;m ch&#7911; th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh, ngay c&#7843; vi&#7879;c ch&#417;i x&#7893; s&#7889; c&#361;ng kh&ocirc;ng khi&#7871;n b&#7841;n may m&#7855;n v&agrave; gi&agrave;u c&oacute; h&#417;n, ch&iacute;nh t&acirc;m tr&iacute; c&#7911;a b&#7841;n m&#7899;i l&agrave;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">3. H&#7885; h&#7885;c c&aacute;ch v&#432;&#7907;t qua th&#7845;t b&#7841;i</h4>Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng c&#7911;a b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; c&#7889; g&#7855;ng t&igrave;m c&aacute;ch gi&#7843;i tho&aacute;t kh&#7887;i cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng ch&#7881; v&igrave; nh&#7919;ng n&#7895;i &#273;au, h&#7885; c&#7889; g&#7855;ng t&igrave;m ra n&#7895;i &#273;au &#7845;y v&agrave; sau &#273;&oacute; th&igrave; n&eacute;m ch&uacute;ng &#273;i. Vi&#7879;c n&agrave;y c&oacute; &iacute;ch h&#417;n r&#7845;t nhi&#7873;u so v&#7899;i vi&#7879;c ng&#7891;i &#7903; m&#7897;t n&#417;i v&ocirc; b&#7893; r&#7891;i than v&atilde;n v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng k&#7867; thua cu&#7897;c kh&aacute;c, b&#7841;n ho&agrave;n to&agrave;n c&oacute; th&#7875; &#273;&#7913;ng l&ecirc;n, b&#432;&#7899;c ra ngo&agrave;i v&agrave; h&#432;&#7899;ng t&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng m&#7909;c ti&ecirc;u l&#7899;n lao.Kh&ocirc;ng n&#7843;n l&ograve;ng v&#7899;i b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave; tr&ecirc;n &#273;&#7901;i l&agrave; m&#7897;t &#273;&#7913;c t&iacute;nh t&#7889;t, h&#417;n n&#7919;a, c&agrave;ng l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c ch&#259;m ch&#7881;, &#432;&#7899;c m&#417; c&agrave;ng t&#7899;i g&#7847;n v&#7899;i b&#7841;n h&#417;n. B&#7903;i v&#7853;y, thay v&igrave; s&#7889;ng v&#7899;i &#273;au kh&#7893;, h&atilde;y qu&ecirc;n &#273;i th&#7845;t b&#7841;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh, c&#7889; g&#7855;ng kh&#7855;c ghi nh&#7919;ng sai l&#7847;m c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&agrave; ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n b&#7841;n c&oacute; th&#7875; h&#7885;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c kinh nghi&#7879;m t&#7915; ch&uacute;ng.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">4. H&#7885; tr&aacute;nh xa nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c</h4>H&#417;n b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave;, h&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng g&#7855;n b&oacute; qu&aacute; nhi&#7873;u v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#7845;t b&#7841;i. H&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; ng&#7891;i h&agrave;ng gi&#7901; &#273;&#7875; l&#7855;ng nghe v&agrave; an &#7911;i nh&#7919;ng k&#7867; v&ocirc; &#273;&#7883;nh v&#7873; cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh.&#272;i&#7873;u duy nh&#7845;t khi&#7871;n cho h&#7885; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng &#7903; b&ecirc;n nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i g&#7863;p kh&oacute; kh&#259;n tr&ecirc;n con &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh l&agrave; khi nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7845;y s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng quay &#273;&#7847;u v&agrave; c&#7847;n s&#7921; gi&uacute;p &#273;&#7905;. H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng chia s&#7867; nh&#7919;ng kinh nghi&#7879;m v&agrave; l&#7901;i khuy&ecirc;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">5.&nbsp;H&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng ti&ecirc;u t&#7889;n th&#7901;i gian v&ocirc; &iacute;ch</h4>Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng r&#7845;t t&#7879; trong vi&#7879;c tr&igrave; ho&atilde;n. H&#7885; trung th&agrave;nh v&#7899;i vi&#7879;c c&#7889; g&#7855;ng &#273;&#7841;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7919;ng m&#7909;c ti&ecirc;u m&igrave;nh &#273;&#7863;t ra. M&#7895;i gi&acirc;y ph&uacute;t trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a h&#7885; &#273;&#7873;u r&#7845;t &#273;&aacute;ng qu&yacute;. H&#7885; &#273;&#7863;t r&otilde; r&agrave;ng con &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng m&igrave;nh ch&#7885;n &#273;&#7875; thay &#273;&#7893;i th&#7871; gi&#7899;i v&agrave; t&#7845;t nhi&ecirc;n, h&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng mu&#7889;n b&#7887; l&#7905; b&#7845;t c&#7913; &#273;i&#7873;u g&igrave;.&nbsp;Khi nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n &#7845;y gi&agrave; &#273;i, h&#7885; mu&#7889;n t&#7921; h&agrave;o v&#7873; qu&#7929; th&#7901;i gian m&igrave;nh &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#7847;u t&#432;. Khi h&#7885; b&#432;&#7899;c v&agrave;o m&#7897;t c&#259;n ph&ograve;ng, h&#7885; mu&#7889;n l&agrave; ng&#432;&#7901;i n&#7893;i tr&#7897;i theo l&#7889;i s&#7889;ng ri&ecirc;ng c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n tr&agrave;n &#273;&#7847;y nhi&#7879;t huy&#7871;t v&agrave; lu&ocirc;n h&#432;&#7899;ng t&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng k&#7871;t qu&#7843; &#273;&aacute;ng t&#7921; h&agrave;o.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">6. H&#7885; h&#7841;n ch&#7871; t&#7889;i &#273;a s&#7921; xao nh&atilde;ng</h4>Thay v&igrave; ng&#7891;i h&agrave;ng gi&#7901; l&#432;&#7899;t Youtube, h&#7885; d&agrave;nh c&agrave;ng nhi&#7873;u th&#7901;i gian c&agrave;ng t&#7889;t &#273;&#7875; ho&agrave;n th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c v&agrave; l&ecirc;n k&#7871; ho&#7841;ch cho nh&#7919;ng m&#7909;c ti&ecirc;u l&#7899;n lao. H&#7885; d&agrave;nh h&#417;n 50% qu&#7929; th&#7901;i gian trong ng&agrave;y cho nh&#7919;ng c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c &#273;em l&#7841;i gi&aacute; tr&#7883; thi&#7871;t th&#7921;c. H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n trong tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng th&#7921;c thi thay v&igrave; ng&#7891;i &#273;&oacute; v&agrave; nh&igrave;n nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c v&#432;&#7907;t l&ecirc;n ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">7.&nbsp;H&#7885; t&#7915; b&#7887; t&iacute;nh &iacute;ch k&#7881;</h4>H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n &#273;&#7863;t t&#7847;m nh&igrave;n, gia &#273;&igrave;nh v&agrave; m&#7909;c ti&ecirc;u c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh l&ecirc;n tr&ecirc;n h&#7871;t. V&#7899;i h&#7885;, cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng &#273;&#417;n gi&#7843;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; ho&agrave;n h&#7843;o n&#7871;u ch&#7881; xoay quanh ch&iacute;nh b&#7843;n th&acirc;n h&#7885;. H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng s&#7867; chia v&agrave; &#273;em l&#7841;i gi&aacute; tr&#7883; cho m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh b&#7845;t c&#7913; khi n&agrave;o c&oacute; th&#7875;.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">8.&nbsp;H&#7885; t&#7915; b&#7887; vi&#7879;c ti&ecirc;u t&#7889;n ti&#7873;n b&#7841;c v&ocirc; ngh&#297;a</h4>Ti&#7873;n b&#7841;c l&agrave; m&#7897;t trong nh&#7919;ng chi&#7871;c ch&igrave;a kh&oacute;a kh&aacute;c bi&#7879;t. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7863;t s&#7921; ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n l&ecirc;n tr&#432;&#7899;c ti&ecirc;n v&agrave; &#273;&#7847;u t&#432; m&#7897;t kho&#7843;n l&#7899;n thu nh&#7853;p c&#7911;a h&#7885; cho nh&#7919;ng gi&aacute; tr&#7883; h&#7885; c&oacute; th&#7875; nh&#7853;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c.&nbsp;Nh&#432;ng h&#7885; c&#361;ng kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; qu&ecirc;n vi&#7879;c chi ti&ecirc;u cho ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; khi h&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n &#273;&#7875; cho &#273;i. H&#7885; lu&ocirc;n t&#7881;nh t&aacute;o trong vi&#7879;c s&#7917; d&#7909;ng ti&#7873;n, h&#7885; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng chi ti&ecirc;u n&#7871;u nh&#7853;n th&#7845;y nh&#7919;ng gi&aacute; tr&#7883; to l&#7899;n m&agrave; n&oacute; mang l&#7841;i.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">9.&nbsp;H&#7885; t&#7915; b&#7887; vi&#7879;c kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7863;t ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave;o ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c</h4>B&#7841;n s&#7869; ch&#7859;ng th&#7875; x&acirc;y &#273;&#432;&#7907;c th&agrave;nh Rome n&#7871;u b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; b&#7845;t c&#7913; ai gi&uacute;p &#273;&#7905;. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng bi&#7871;t c&aacute;ch &#273;&#7863;t ni&#7873;m tin v&agrave;o &#273;&#7891;ng &#273;&#7897;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. H&#7885; nh&igrave;n th&#7845;y nh&#7919;ng t&agrave;i n&#259;ng ti&#7873;m &#7849;n v&agrave; mu&#7889;n m&agrave;i d&#361;a h&#7885; th&agrave;nh nh&#7919;ng vi&ecirc;n kim c&#432;&#417;ng l&#7845;p l&aacute;nh. H&#7885; mu&#7889;n nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c c&oacute; th&#7875; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh leader h&#417;n l&agrave; ch&#7881; m&igrave;nh h&#7885; &#273;&#7897;c t&agrave;i v&#7883; tr&iacute; &#273;&oacute;.&nbsp;<h4 style="text-align:justify;">10. H&#7885; t&#7915; b&#7887; nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c</h4>Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng t&#7915; b&#7887; t&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c. Con ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#7885; l&agrave; trung t&acirc;m c&#7911;a ch&iacute;nh cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng &#273;ang di&#7877;n ra, m&#7885;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7873;u ch&#7881; xu&#7845;t ph&aacute;t t&#7915; m&#7897;t n&#417;i &#273;&oacute; m&agrave; th&ocirc;i. H&#7885; r&egrave;n cho m&igrave;nh th&oacute;i quen ch&#7889;ng l&#7841;i t&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng &yacute; ngh&#297; x&#7845;u &#273;&#7875; lu&ocirc;n h&#432;&#7899;ng v&#7873; t&#432;&#417;ng lai t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p.&nbsp;So v&#7899;i vi&#7879;c &ocirc;m &#7845;p nh&#7919;ng k&#7871;t qu&#7843; ch&#432;a nh&#432; &yacute; mu&#7889;n th&igrave; h&#7885; th&iacute;ch vi&#7879;c &#273;&#7849;y ch&uacute;ng &#273;i nh&#432; nh&#7919;ng &#273;&aacute;m m&acirc;y bay ngang qua tr&ecirc;n tr&#7901;i. H&#7885; ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i quan s&aacute;t &yacute; ngh&#297; c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh, b&#7903;i v&#7853;y h&#7885; c&oacute; quy&#7873;n t&#7921; l&#7921;a ch&#7885;n suy ngh&#297; th&#7853;t t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c.V&#7853;y sau khi quan s&aacute;t 10 &#273;&#7863;c &#273;i&#7875;m n&agrave;y, b&#7841;n &#273;&atilde; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng v&#7899;i vai di&#7877;n &ldquo;ng&#432;&#7901;i th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng&rdquo; r&#7891;i ch&#7913;?&nbsp;Ngu&#7891;n: HRC

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