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<html><body>N&#7871;u b&#7841;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y c&oacute; qu&aacute; nhi&#7873;u vi&#7879;c ph&#7843;i l&agrave;m nh&#432;ng kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7911; th&#7901;i gian &#273;&#7875; th&#7921;c hi&#7879;n ch&uacute;ng th&igrave; b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng c&ocirc; &#273;&#417;n. H&#7847;u h&#7871;t ng&#432;&#7901;i M&#7929; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7883; &eacute;p bu&#7897;c v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian. Trong m&#7897;t&nbsp; cu&#7897;c kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t n&#259;m 2016, 60 % cha m&#7865; lu&ocirc;n lu&ocirc;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y v&#7897;i v&agrave;ng khi l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c.V&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng b&#7853;c cha m&#7865; c&oacute; vi&#7879;c l&agrave;m c&#7843;m th&#7845;y thi&#7871;u th&#7901;i gian. Trong m&#7897;t cu&#7897;c kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t, 80 % ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n &#273;ang l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c &ndash; d&ugrave; c&oacute; hay kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; con c&aacute;i, &#273;&#7873;u mong mu&#7889;n r&#7857;ng h&#7885; c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n &#273;&#7875; d&agrave;nh cho b&#7841;n b&egrave; v&agrave; gia &#273;&igrave;nh. C&aacute;c nh&agrave; khoa h&#7885;c th&#7853;m ch&iacute; c&ograve;n &#273;&#7863;t ra thu&#7853;t ng&#7919; &ldquo;N&#7841;n &#273;&oacute;i th&#7901;i gian&rdquo; &#273;&#7875; m&ocirc; t&#7843; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c lan t&#7887;a khi b&#7883; cho&aacute;ng ng&#7907;p v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng &#273;&ograve;i h&#7887;i c&#7911;a c&ocirc;ng vi&#7879;c v&agrave; cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng.<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/ti%E1%BB%81n%20v%C3%A0%20th%E1%BB%9Di%20gian%201.jpg"></figure>Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&aacute;o c&aacute;o th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y khan hi&#7871;m th&#7901;i gian l&agrave;&nbsp; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &iacute;t h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c, d&#7877; b&#7883; lo l&#7855;ng v&agrave; tr&#7847;m c&#7843;m h&#417;n nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i cho bi&#7871;t h&#7885; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y tho&#7843;i m&aacute;i v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian. C&aacute;c nh&agrave; nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u y t&#7871; c&ocirc;ng c&#7897;ng &#273;&atilde; x&#7871;p h&#7841;ng c&#259;ng th&#7859;ng th&#7901;i gian l&agrave; m&#7897;t trong nh&#7919;ng&nbsp; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng x&atilde; h&#7897;i quan tr&#7885;ng nh&#7845;t l&agrave;m t&#259;ng t&#7927; l&#7879; b&eacute;o ph&igrave;.M&#7897;t l&yacute; do r&otilde; r&agrave;ng cho s&#7921; gia t&#259;ng c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c khan hi&#7871;m th&#7901;i gian l&agrave; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i ch&#7881; &#273;&#417;n gi&#7843;n l&agrave; c&oacute; &iacute;t th&#7901;i gian r&#7843;nh h&#417;n so v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng th&#7853;p k&#7927; tr&#432;&#7899;c. Nh&#432;ng c&oacute; r&#7845;t &iacute;t b&#7857;ng ch&#7913;ng cho &yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng n&agrave;y. Thay v&agrave;o &#273;&oacute;, gi&#7843;m c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c tho&#7843;i m&aacute;i v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian c&oacute; th&#7875; &#273;&#7871;n t&#7915; m&#7897;t th&#7911; ph&#7841;m &#273;&aacute;ng ng&#7841;c nhi&ecirc;n: s&#7921; gi&agrave;u c&oacute; &#273;ang gia t&#259;ng. Khi thu nh&#7853;p &#273;&atilde; t&#259;ng tr&ecirc;n to&agrave;n th&#7871; gi&#7899;i, c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c &aacute;p l&#7921;c v&#7873; th&#7901;i gian c&#361;ng t&#259;ng l&ecirc;n. &#7902; c&aacute;c n&#432;&#7899;c t&#7915; &#272;&#7913;c &#273;&#7871;n Hoa K&#7923;, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; thu nh&#7853;p cao h&#417;n c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u kh&#7843; n&#259;ng &#273;&#7891;ng &yacute; v&#7899;i c&aacute;c tuy&ecirc;n b&#7889; nh&#432; &ldquo;kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; &#273;&#7911; ph&uacute;t trong m&#7897;t ng&agrave;y&rdquo;.T&#7841;i sao c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n h&#417;n khi&#7871;n ch&uacute;ng ta c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7883; &eacute;p th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n? Theo m&ocirc; t&#7843; trong&nbsp; l&yacute; thuy&#7871;t h&agrave;ng h&oacute;a, khi b&#7845;t k&#7923; t&agrave;i nguy&ecirc;n n&agrave;o &#273;&#432;&#7907;c coi l&agrave; khan hi&#7871;m, n&oacute; c&#361;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c coi l&agrave; c&oacute; gi&aacute; tr&#7883; (ngh&#297; v&#7873; n&#432;&#7899;c trong sa m&#7841;c). V&igrave; v&#7853;y, khi th&#7901;i gian c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng ta b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u tr&#7903; n&ecirc;n c&oacute; gi&aacute; tr&#7883; h&#417;n v&#7873; m&#7863;t t&agrave;i ch&iacute;nh, ch&uacute;ng ta c&#361;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; xem nh&#432; th&#7901;i gian c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh ng&agrave;y c&agrave;ng khan hi&#7871;m.C&oacute; c&aacute;ch n&agrave;o tho&aacute;t kh&#7887;i m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; gi&#7919;a s&#7921; sung t&uacute;c t&agrave;i ch&iacute;nh v&agrave; ngh&egrave;o &#273;&oacute;i th&#7901;i gian kh&ocirc;ng? N&#7871;u ki&#7871;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n h&#417;n khi&#7871;n ch&uacute;ng ta c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7883; &eacute;p bu&#7897;c th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n, vi&#7879;c thay &#273;&#7893;i c&aacute;ch ch&uacute;ng ta ti&ecirc;u s&#7889; ti&#7873;n &#273;&oacute; c&oacute; th&#7875; mang l&#7841;i m&#7897;t l&#7889;i tho&aacute;t kh&#7887;i kh&#7911;ng ho&#7843;ng th&#7901;i gian. Ch&uacute;ng ta ng&agrave;y c&agrave;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; s&#7917; d&#7909;ng ti&#7873;n &#273;&#7875; mua nhi&#7873;u th&#7901;i gian r&#7843;nh h&#417;n, b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch tr&#7843; ti&#7873;n cho t&#7845;t c&#7843; m&#7885;i th&#7913; t&#7915; d&#7885;n d&#7865;p nh&agrave; c&#7917;a &#273;&#7871;n mua h&agrave;ng qua m&#7841;ng.&#272;&#7875; t&igrave;m hi&#7875;u xem nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i s&#7917; d&#7909;ng chi&#7871;n l&#432;&#7907;c n&agrave;y c&oacute; t&#7889;t h&#417;n kh&ocirc;ng, m&#7897;t cu&#7897;c kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ti&#7871;n h&agrave;nh v&#7899;i h&#417;n 6.000 ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n &#7903; Canada, &#272;an M&#7841;ch, M&#7929; v&agrave; H&agrave; Lan. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; chi ti&#7873;n cho vi&#7879;c mua h&agrave;ng ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m th&#7901;i gian cho bi&#7871;t m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; h&agrave;i l&ograve;ng cao h&#417;n v&#7899;i cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a h&#7885;.M&#7897;t&nbsp; th&iacute; nghi&#7879;m kh&aacute;c v&#7899;i 60 ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n &#273;ang l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c s&#7889;ng &#7903; Vancouver, Canada &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ti&#7871;n h&agrave;nh b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch cho h&#7885; 40 &#273;&ocirc; la &#273;&#7875; chi ti&ecirc;u theo b&#7845;t k&#7923; c&aacute;ch n&agrave;o c&oacute; th&#7875; ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m th&#7901;i gian trong v&ograve;ng 1 ng&agrave;y cu&#7889;i tu&#7847;n. V&agrave;o m&#7897;t ng&agrave;y cu&#7889;i tu&#7847;n kh&aacute;c, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i tham gia kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t ti&#7871;p t&#7909;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7853;n 40 &#273;&ocirc; la, nh&#432;ng l&#7847;n n&agrave;y h&#7885; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c y&ecirc;u c&#7847;u mua m&#7897;t th&#7913; v&#7853;t ch&#7845;t, nh&#432; s&aacute;ch ho&#7863;c qu&#7847;n &aacute;o.Trung b&igrave;nh, m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c h&#417;n sau khi chi 40 &#273;&ocirc; la cho vi&#7879;c mua h&agrave;ng theo c&aacute;c c&aacute;ch th&#7913;c ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n l&agrave; sau khi chi ti&ecirc;u c&ugrave;ng s&#7889; ti&#7873;n cho m&#7897;t th&#7913; v&#7853;t ch&#7845;t, v&agrave; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c &#273;&oacute; &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c gi&#7843;i th&iacute;ch b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch gi&#7843;m c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c &aacute;p l&#7921;c v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian.<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/ti%E1%BB%81n%20v%C3%A0%20th%E1%BB%9Di%20gian%203.jpg"></figure>T&#7845;t nhi&ecirc;n, chi ti&#7873;n cho mua h&agrave;ng th&ocirc;ng qua c&aacute;c c&aacute;ch th&#7913;c ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m th&#7901;i gian kh&ocirc;ng ph&#7843;i l&agrave; c&aacute;ch hi&#7879;u qu&#7843; duy nh&#7845;t &#273;&#7875; &#273;i&#7873;u h&#432;&#7899;ng m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; gi&#7919;a th&#7901;i gian v&agrave; ti&#7873;n b&#7841;c. M&#7897;t s&#7889; ng&#432;&#7901;i ch&#7885;n l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c &iacute;t gi&#7901; h&#417;n, ngay c&#7843; khi &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute; c&oacute; ngh&#297;a l&agrave; ki&#7871;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &iacute;t ti&#7873;n h&#417;n, trong khi nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c tr&#7843; ph&iacute; b&#7843;o hi&#7875;m cho m&#7897;t c&#259;n h&#7897; &#7903; trung t&acirc;m th&agrave;nh ph&#7889; cho ph&eacute;p h&#7885; &#273;i b&#7897; &#273;&#7875; l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c.&#272;&#7875; nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u &#7843;nh h&#432;&#7903;ng c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng s&#7921; &#273;&aacute;nh &#273;&#7893;i n&agrave;y, m&#7897;t nh&oacute;m nh&agrave; nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u &#273;&atilde; kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t h&agrave;ng ng&agrave;n ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n &#273;ang l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c v&#7899;i m&#7897;t c&acirc;u h&#7887;i &#273;&#417;n gi&#7843;n : B&#7841;n gi&#7889;ng Tina h&#417;n hay b&#7841;n gi&#7889;ng Maggie h&#417;n? K&#7883;ch b&#7843;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#432;a ra nh&#432; sau:Tina coi tr&#7885;ng th&#7901;i gian c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh h&#417;n ti&#7873;n. C&ocirc; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng hy sinh ti&#7873;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; th&ecirc;m th&#7901;i gian. V&iacute; d&#7909;, Tina th&agrave; l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c &iacute;t gi&#7901; h&#417;n v&agrave; ki&#7871;m &iacute;t ti&#7873;n h&#417;n.Maggie coi tr&#7885;ng ti&#7873;n c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh h&#417;n th&#7901;i gian. C&ocirc; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng hy sinh th&#7901;i gian &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; th&ecirc;m ti&#7873;n. V&iacute; d&#7909;, Maggie th&agrave; l&agrave;m vi&#7879;c nhi&#7873;u gi&#7901; h&#417;n v&agrave; ki&#7871;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n h&#417;n.K&#7871;t qu&#7843; cho th&#7845;y, ph&#7847;n l&#7899;n m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#7873;u cho r&#7857;ng Tina l&agrave; ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c h&#417;n. Do &#273;&oacute;, kh&ocirc;ng ch&#7881; l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng d&#7883;ch v&#7909; nh&#7857;m ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m th&#7901;i gian, nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i n&oacute;i r&#7857;ng &#432;u ti&ecirc;n th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n ti&#7873;n d&#432;&#7901;ng nh&#432; s&#7869; gi&uacute;p h&#7885; tr&#7903; n&ecirc;n t&#7889;t h&#417;n.<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/ti%E1%BB%81n%20v%C3%A0%20th%E1%BB%9Di%20gian%202.jpg"></figure>Trong m&#7897;t kh&iacute;a c&#7841;nh kh&aacute;c, m&#7897;t cu&#7897;c &#273;i&#7873;u tra v&#7899;i 800 tri&#7879;u ph&uacute; H&agrave; Lan v&#7873; th&oacute;i quen chi ti&ecirc;u h&agrave;ng th&aacute;ng &#273;i&#7875;n h&igrave;nh c&#7911;a h&#7885; cho th&#7845;y, g&#7847;n m&#7897;t n&#7917;a trong s&#7889; h&#7885; b&aacute;o c&aacute;o kh&ocirc;ng d&agrave;nh ti&#7873;n cho c&aacute;c ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; gi&uacute;p ti&#7871;t ki&#7879;m v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian. &#272;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y c&oacute; th&#7875; gi&uacute;p gi&#7843;i th&iacute;ch l&yacute; do t&#7841;i sao s&#7921; gi&agrave;u c&oacute; c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng l&agrave;m tr&#7847;m tr&#7885;ng th&ecirc;m, h&#417;n l&agrave; gi&#7843;m b&#7899;t s&#7921; c&#259;ng th&#7859;ng v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian. B&#7903;i th&#7871;, kh&ocirc;ng kh&oacute; hi&#7875;u khi nhi&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; &yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng v&#7873; th&#7901;i gian ch&#7853;m ch&#7841;p trong t&#432;&#417;ng lai, "&#272;&oacute; l&agrave; kh&aacute;i ni&#7879;m m&agrave; h&#7847;u h&#7871;t m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i tin r&#7857;ng h&#7885; s&#7869; c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u th&#7901;i gian h&#417;n trong t&#432;&#417;ng lai so v&#7899;i hi&#7879;n t&#7841;i.Ti&#7873;n v&#7915;a l&agrave; nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n v&#7915;a l&agrave; gi&#7843;i ph&aacute;p ti&#7873;m n&#259;ng cho &ldquo;n&#7841;n &#273;&oacute;i th&#7901;i gian&rdquo; c&#7911;a cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng hi&#7879;n &#273;&#7841;i. M&#7863;c d&ugrave; c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u ti&#7873;n h&#417;n c&oacute; li&ecirc;n quan &#273;&#7871;n c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c b&#7883; &eacute;p bu&#7897;c v&#7873; m&#7863;t th&#7901;i gian, c&aacute;c nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u cho th&#7845;y m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; b&#7845;t l&#7907;i n&agrave;y l&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; tr&aacute;nh kh&#7887;i. Thay v&agrave;o &#273;&oacute;, h&atilde;y suy ngh&#297; l&#7841;i v&#7873; c&aacute;c quy&#7871;t &#273;&#7883;nh chi ti&ecirc;u c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng ta, t&#7915; ng&#432;&#7901;i gi&agrave;u c&oacute; &#273;&#7871;n ng&#432;&#7901;i b&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng, &#273;&#7875; c&oacute; th&#7875; gi&uacute;p bi&#7871;n s&#7921; gi&agrave;u c&oacute; th&agrave;nh h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c.</body></html>

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