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<html><body>Trong m&#7897;t kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t g&#7847;n &#273;&acirc;y tr&ecirc;n g&#7847;n 1000 ph&#7909; huynh c&#7911;a thanh thi&#7871;u ni&ecirc;n , Reina Evans v&agrave; c&aacute;c &#273;&#7891;ng nghi&#7879;p &#273;&atilde; thu th&#7853;p c&aacute;c c&acirc;u h&#7887;i h&#7887;i ph&#7909; huynh v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng n&#7895; l&#7921;c gi&aacute;o d&#7909;c gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh c&#7911;a h&#7885; v&#7899;i con c&aacute;i. 97% nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&#432;&#7907;c kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t &#273;&atilde; cho bi&#7871;t h&#7885; &#273;&atilde; n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con v&#7873; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, v&agrave; ch&#7881; c&oacute; 3% cho bi&#7871;t h&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con v&#7873; ch&#7911; &#273;&#7873; n&agrave;y. Nh&#432;ng ch&iacute;nh x&aacute;c l&agrave; h&#7885; n&oacute;i v&#7873; c&aacute;i g&igrave; v&#7853;y? Th&#7913; h&#7841;ng d&#432;&#7899;i &#273;&acirc;y cho bi&#7871;t li&#7879;u c&aacute;c b&#7853;c cha m&#7865; (g&#7847;n nh&#432; gi&#7889;ng h&#7879;t nhau cho c&#7843; cha v&agrave; m&#7865;) &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i h&#7885; v&#7873; ch&#7911; &#273;&#7873; gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c li&#7879;t k&ecirc; t&#7915; h&#7847;u h&#7871;t &#273;&#7871;n &iacute;t th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n nh&#7845;t.1. H&#7865;n h&ograve;&nbsp;2. Mang thai3. Tr&igrave; ho&atilde;n quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c4. HIV, AIDS5. Quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c an to&agrave;n6. Bao cao su / ng&#7915;a thai7. Ph&aacute; thai8. L&#7921;a ch&#7885;n b&#7841;n t&igrave;nh9. Ham mu&#7889;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c&nbsp;10. C&aacute;c lo&#7841;i quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c kh&aacute;c nhau (v&iacute; d&#7909;: Quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c b&#7857;ng mi&#7879;ng)11. S&#7921; th&#7887;a m&atilde;n / c&#7921;c kho&aacute;i t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c12. Th&#7911; d&acirc;m13. N&oacute;i v&#7873; mong mu&#7889;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c v&#7899;i &#273;&#7889;i t&aacute;c<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/web1.jpg"></figure>C&#7843; ng&#432;&#7901;i cha v&agrave; m&#7865; &#273;&#7873;u tr&ograve; chuy&#7879;n th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n h&#417;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng r&#7911;i ro t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, h&#417;n l&agrave; v&#7873; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c nh&#432; m&#7897;t kh&iacute;a c&#7841;nh t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c c&#7911;a cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng. Kho&#7843;ng 95 % cha m&#7865; b&aacute;o c&aacute;o r&#7857;ng h&#7885; &#273;&atilde; n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i v&#7873; h&#7865;n h&ograve; / m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng, nh&#432;ng &iacute;t h&#417;n 40% n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i v&#7873; s&#7921; th&#7887;a m&atilde;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, th&#7911; d&acirc;m v&agrave; giao ti&#7871;p v&#7873; nhu c&#7847;u t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c.Nh&igrave;n chung, c&aacute;c b&agrave; m&#7865; c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u kh&#7843; n&#259;ng &ndash; t&#7915; 10 &#273;&#7871;n 20 % l&#7899;n h&#417;n so v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i cha, n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i h&#7885; v&#7873; c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng r&#7911;i ro v&agrave; nh&#7919;ng kh&iacute;a c&#7841;nh t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c c&#7911;a t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c. Th&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i con g&aacute;i th&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c khuy&ecirc;n l&agrave; h&#7841;n ch&#7871; x&#7843;y ra quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, ch&#7901; &#273;&#7907;i, ho&#7863;c, &iacute;t nh&#7845;t, h&atilde;y c&#7849;n th&#7853;n v&agrave; b&#7843;o v&#7879; b&#7843;n th&acirc;n v&#7873; vi&#7879;c mang thai, t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c an to&agrave;n, b&#7879;nh t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, bi&#7879;n ph&aacute;p tr&aacute;nh thai v&agrave; cu&#7889;i c&ugrave;ng l&agrave; ph&aacute; thai.Kh&aacute; hi&#7871;m nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i l&agrave;m cha m&#7865; c&oacute; &yacute; &#273;&#7883;nh (ho&#7863;c s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng) &#273;&#7875; th&#7843;o lu&#7853;n v&#7873; c&aacute;c kh&iacute;a c&#7841;nh t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c c&#7911;a t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c. &#272;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y &#273;&#7863;c bi&#7879;t &#273;&aacute;ng ch&uacute; &yacute; &#7903; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i cha, khi ch&#7881; c&oacute; 20% n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con g&aacute;i h&#7885; v&#7873; th&#7911; d&acirc;m, ham mu&#7889;n / th&#7887;a m&atilde;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, s&#7921; &#273;a d&#7841;ng trong c&aacute;c ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c m&agrave; con g&aacute;i c&oacute; s&#7861;n v&agrave; nhu c&#7847;u t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c v&#7899;i b&#7841;n t&igrave;nh.C&aacute;c nh&agrave; nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u l&#432;u &yacute; r&#7857;ng k&#7871;t qu&#7843; c&#7911;a h&#7885; ph&ugrave; h&#7907;p v&#7899;i m&#7889;i b&#7853;n t&acirc;m c&#7911;a nhi&#7873;u ph&#7909; huynh v&#7899;i c&aacute;c t&aacute;c &#273;&#7897;ng ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c l&acirc;u d&agrave;i c&oacute; th&#7875; &#7843;nh h&#432;&#7903;ng &#273;&#7871;n cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c c&#7911;a con c&aacute;i h&#7885; v&agrave; do &#273;&oacute;, th&#7875; hi&#7879;n s&#7921; kh&ocirc;ng t&aacute;n th&agrave;nh &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i h&agrave;nh vi t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c c&#7911;a tr&#7867; v&#7883; th&agrave;nh ni&ecirc;n.V&#7899;i h&#417;n 95% cha m&#7865; n&oacute;i r&#7857;ng h&#7885; n&oacute;i chuy&#7879;n v&#7899;i con v&#7873; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, li&#7879;u con g&aacute;i c&oacute; c&#7911;a h&#7885; c&oacute; &#273;&#7891;ng &yacute; kh&ocirc;ng? Susan Sprecher, m&#7897;t nh&agrave; x&atilde; h&#7897;i h&#7885;c v&agrave; c&aacute;c &#273;&#7891;ng nghi&#7879;p &#273;&atilde; kh&#7843;o s&aacute;t h&#417;n 6.000 sinh vi&ecirc;n &#273;&#7841;i h&#7885;c, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; ho&agrave;n th&agrave;nh c&acirc;u h&#7887;i v&#7873; c&aacute;c ngu&#7891;n gi&aacute;o d&#7909;c gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh v&agrave; m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; h&#7885; &#273;&atilde; truy&#7873;n &#273;&#7841;t v&#7873; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c v&#7899;i nhi&#7873;u lo&#7841;i c&aacute; nh&acirc;n.C&aacute;c c&ocirc; g&aacute;i tr&#7867; &#273;&atilde; b&aacute;o c&aacute;o c&aacute;c ngu&#7891;n gi&aacute;o d&#7909;c gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh ch&iacute;nh c&#7911;a h&#7885; l&agrave; b&#7841;n &#273;&#7891;ng gi&#7899;i, b&#7841;n t&igrave;nh v&agrave; b&#7841;n kh&aacute;c gi&#7899;i. C&aacute;c b&agrave; m&#7865; &#273;&#7913;ng &#7903; v&#7883; tr&iacute; th&#7913; 6, sau c&aacute;c ph&#432;&#417;ng ti&#7879;n truy&#7873;n th&ocirc;ng v&agrave; &#273;&#7885;c s&aacute;ch. C&aacute;c &ocirc;ng b&#7889; &#273;&#7913;ng &#7903; v&#7883; tr&iacute; th&#7913; 11, sau c&#7843; c&aacute;c b&aacute;c s&#297; v&agrave; ch&#7881; &#273;&#7913;ng tr&#432;&#7899;c c&aacute;c nh&agrave; ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng t&ocirc;n gi&aacute;o.&nbsp;Gi&aacute;o d&#7909;c gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh gi&#7919;a ph&#7909; huynh v&agrave; thanh thi&#7871;u ni&ecirc;n c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c c&#7843;i thi&#7879;n?Sprecher sau &#273;&oacute; chia m&#7851;u c&#7911;a c&ocirc; th&agrave;nh 3 nh&oacute;m &#273;&#7875; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; c&aacute;c thay &#273;&#7893;i trong th&#7853;p k&#7927; qua. Tr&ecirc;n c&#7843; hai gi&#7899;i, c&aacute;c nh&oacute;m tr&#7867; h&#417;n (2000-2006) cho bi&#7871;t h&#7885; hi&#7879;n &#273;ang &#273;&#432;&#7907;c gi&aacute;o d&#7909;c gi&#7899;i t&iacute;nh nhi&#7873;u h&#417;n t&#7915; c&aacute;c ph&#432;&#417;ng ti&#7879;n truy&#7873;n th&ocirc;ng, &#273;&#7891;ng nghi&#7879;p v&agrave; chuy&ecirc;n gia so v&#7899;i c&aacute;c nh&oacute;m sinh vi&ecirc;n l&#7899;n tu&#7893;i (1990-1994). Theo th&#7901;i gian, ti&#7871;p c&#7853;n ngu&#7891;n th&ocirc;ng tin t&#7915; vi&#7879;c &#273;&#7885;c &#273;&atilde; gi&#7843;m h&#417;n so v&#7899;i tr&#432;&#7899;c. T&#7915; quan &#273;i&#7875;m c&#7911;a gi&#7899;i tr&#7867;, gi&#7901; &#273;&acirc;y, vi&#7879;c trao &#273;&#7893;i v&#7899;i cha m&#7865; v&#7873; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c &ndash; v&#7889;n &#273;&atilde; h&#7841;n ch&#7871; - nay &#273;&atilde; ti&#7871;p t&#7909;c gi&#7843;m &#273;i tr&#432;&#7899;c s&#7921; gia t&#259;ng m&#7841;nh m&#7869; c&#7911;a th&ocirc;ng tin tr&ecirc;n c&aacute;c ph&#432;&#417;ng ti&#7879;n truy&#7873;n th&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7841;i ch&uacute;ng.</body></html>

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Trong một khảo sát gần đây trên gần 1000 phụ huynh của thanh thiếu niên , Reina Evans và các đồng nghiệp đã thu thập các câu hỏi hỏi phụ huynh 

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