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Tr&ecirc;n th&#7921;c t&#7871;, r&#7845;t kh&oacute; &#273;&#7875; x&aacute;c &#273;&#7883;nh m&#7897;t &#273;&#7883;nh ngh&#297;a duy nh&#7845;t cho kh&aacute;i ni&#7879;m &ldquo;t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u l&agrave; g&igrave;?&rdquo; m&agrave; t&#7845;t c&#7843; ch&uacute;ng ta c&ugrave;ng th&#7889;ng nh&#7845;t &#273;&#7891;ng &yacute; v&#7899;i nhau, b&#7903;i v&igrave; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u l&agrave; r&#7845;t ch&#7911; quan v&agrave; c&oacute; &yacute; ngh&#297;a kh&aacute;c nhau &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c nhau. V&iacute; d&#7909;, m&#7897;t s&#7889; ng&#432;&#7901;i coi t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u nh&#432; m&#7897;t c&#7843;m x&uacute;c v&agrave; m&ocirc; t&#7843; n&oacute; b&#7857;ng c&aacute;ch h&#7885; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o khi &#7903; b&ecirc;n ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c. Ng&#432;&#7907;c l&#7841;i, nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c &#273;&#7883;nh ngh&#297;a t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u l&agrave; m&#7897;t h&agrave;nh vi v&agrave; m&ocirc; t&#7843; n&oacute; b&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u h&#7885; s&#7869; l&agrave;m ho&#7863;c nh&#7919;ng hy sinh m&agrave; h&#7885; s&#7869; d&agrave;nh cho ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c.C&aacute;c nh&agrave; t&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c th&#432;&#7901;ng th&#7843;o lu&#7853;n v&#7873; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u bao g&#7891;m hai lo&#7841;i kh&aacute;c nhau: say &#273;&#7855;m v&agrave; &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh [1]. M&#7895;i ki&#7875;u t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u bao g&#7891;m m&#7897;t lo&#7841;t c&#7843;m x&uacute;c, suy ngh&#297; v&agrave; h&agrave;nh vi ri&ecirc;ng.<h3>&#128204; T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u cu&#7891;ng nhi&#7879;t (Passionate Love)</h3>T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u say &#273;&#7855;m, cu&#7891;ng nhi&#7879;t l&agrave; m&#7897;t tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i s&#7917; d&#7909;ng to&agrave;n b&#7897; n&#259;ng l&#432;&#7907;ng t&acirc;m sinh l&yacute; c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng ta. &#7902; c&#7845;p &#273;&#7897; nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c, n&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;c tr&#432;ng b&#7903;i m&#7889;i b&#7853;n t&acirc;m g&#7847;n nh&#432; &aacute;m &#7843;nh v&#7873; ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7845;y (t&#7913;c l&agrave; b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; ng&#7915;ng ngh&#297; v&#7873; ng&#432;&#7901;i y&ecirc;u c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh), c&#361;ng nh&#432; c&oacute; c&aacute;i nh&igrave;n qu&aacute; l&yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng v&#7873; ng&#432;&#7901;i &#7845;y (b&#7841;n kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; nh&#7853;n ra v&agrave; th&#7915;a nh&#7853;n sai s&oacute;t c&#7911;a h&#7885;) [2]. V&#7873; m&#7863;t t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m, n&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;c tr&#432;ng b&#7903;i s&#7921; h&#7845;p d&#7851;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c m&atilde;nh li&#7879;t, c&#361;ng nh&#432; th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n c&oacute; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c h&#432;ng ph&#7845;n v&agrave; sung s&#432;&#7899;ng khi g&#7863;p m&#7863;t; tuy nhi&ecirc;n, khi ph&#7843;i chia xa, c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c bu&#7891;n b&atilde; c&oacute; th&#7875; v&ocirc; c&ugrave;ng m&atilde;nh li&#7879;t. Ngo&agrave;i ra, &#7903; c&#7845;p &#273;&#7897; th&#7875; ch&#7845;t, n&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;c tr&#432;ng b&#7903;i nh&#7883;p tim t&#259;ng cao, &#273;&#7893; m&#7891; h&ocirc;i, &#273;&#7887; m&#7863;t v&agrave; c&aacute;c d&#7845;u hi&#7879;u chung kh&aacute;c c&#7911;a k&iacute;ch th&iacute;ch t&#259;ng cao. M&#7863;c d&ugrave; t&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c n&agrave;y c&oacute; th&#7875; r&#7845;t m&#7841;nh trong giai &#273;o&#7841;n &#273;&#7847;u c&#7911;a m&#7897;t m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng, nh&#432;ng c&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&#7897; c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng gi&#7843;m d&#7847;n theo th&#7901;i gian.Nh&#432; b&#7841;n c&oacute; th&#7875; &#273;&atilde; th&#7845;y trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh, t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u n&#7891;ng n&agrave;n l&agrave; th&#7913; th&#432;&#7901;ng ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n tr&#432;&#7899;c khi b&#7841;n hi&#7875;u r&otilde; v&#7873; ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n &#273;&#7901;i c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh. Trong th&#7901;i gian n&agrave;y, &ldquo;red flag&rdquo; - nh&#7919;ng l&aacute; c&#7901; c&#7843;nh b&aacute;o ti&#7873;m n&#259;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; xu&#7845;t hi&#7879;n, nh&#432;ng v&igrave; t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m c&#7911;a ch&uacute;ng ta d&agrave;nh cho &#273;&#7889;i ph&#432;&#417;ng qu&aacute; m&atilde;nh li&#7879;t, ch&uacute;ng khi&#7871;n ch&uacute;ng ta b&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng h&oacute;a l&#7895;i l&#7847;m c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i kia v&agrave; b&#7887; qua nh&#7919;ng v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; ti&#7873;m &#7849;n trong m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; n&agrave;y. C&oacute; l&#7869; m&#7897;t ph&#7847;n v&igrave; l&yacute; do n&agrave;y m&agrave; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u n&#7891;ng ch&aacute;y c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng l&agrave; m&#7897;t tr&#7841;ng th&aacute;i kh&aacute; ng&#7855;n ng&#7911;i, nh&#7845;t th&#7901;i, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; c&oacute; th&#7875; ch&#7881; k&eacute;o d&agrave;i trong kho&#7843;ng th&#7901;i gian v&agrave;i tu&#7847;n ho&#7863;c v&agrave;i th&aacute;ng. M&#7897;t s&#7889; s&#7921; v&#7905; m&#7897;ng ch&#7855;c ch&#7855;n s&#7869; x&#7843;y ra khi ni&#7873;m &#273;am m&ecirc; b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u gi&#7843;m d&#7847;n, &#273;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y bu&#7897;c c&aacute;c c&#7863;p &#273;&ocirc;i ph&#7843;i chuy&#7875;n n&#7873;n t&#7843;ng c&#7911;a m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; c&#7911;a h&#7885; sang m&#7897;t th&#7913; g&igrave; &#273;&oacute; &#7893;n &#273;&#7883;nh h&#417;n.&nbsp;<h3>&#128204; T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh (Companionate Love)</h3>T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh s&acirc;u s&#7855;c h&#417;n nhi&#7873;u v&agrave; g&#7847;n nh&#432; kh&ocirc;ng m&atilde;nh li&#7879;t nh&#432; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u cu&#7891;ng nhi&#7879;t. T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;c tr&#432;ng b&#7903;i t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m g&#7855;n b&oacute; v&agrave; cam k&#7871;t v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c. Kh&ocirc;ng gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u cu&#7891;ng nhi&#7879;t, t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh d&#7921;a tr&ecirc;n s&#7921; hi&#7875;u bi&#7871;t &#273;&#7847;y &#273;&#7911; v&agrave; &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; cao t&iacute;nh c&aacute;ch c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c [2]. V&igrave; v&#7853;y, thay v&igrave; b&#7887; qua l&#7895;i l&#7847;m c&#7911;a &#273;&#7889;i t&aacute;c, b&#7841;n c&oacute; &yacute; th&#7913;c nh&#7853;n ra r&#7857;ng &#273;&#7889;i t&aacute;c c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh kh&ocirc;ng ho&agrave;n h&#7843;o (nh&#432; t&#7845;t c&#7843; ch&uacute;ng ta) v&agrave; h&#7885;c c&aacute;ch khoan dung m&#7885;i thi&#7871;u s&oacute;t. T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh c&#361;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;c tr&#432;ng b&#7903;i mong mu&#7889;n l&agrave;m cho m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; ho&#7841;t &#273;&#7897;ng b&#7845;t ch&#7845;p m&#7885;i kh&oacute; kh&#259;n c&oacute; th&#7875; n&#7843;y sinh, c&#361;ng nh&#432; s&#7861;n s&agrave;ng hy sinh l&#7907;i &iacute;ch b&#7843;n th&acirc;n &#273;&#7875; c&#7843;i thi&#7879;n m&#7889;i quan h&#7879;.Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i tr&#7843;i qua t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh v&#7851;n c&oacute; th&#7875; quan h&#7879; t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c, m&#7863;c d&ugrave; n&oacute; c&oacute; th&#7875; kh&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n ho&#7863;c m&atilde;nh li&#7879;t nh&#432; trong m&#7897;t m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng cu&#7891;ng nhi&#7879;t. Tuy nhi&ecirc;n, m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; tin c&#7853;y cao h&#417;n v&agrave; s&#7921; quan t&acirc;m l&#7851;n nhau &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i nhu c&#7847;u c&#7911;a nhau c&oacute; th&#7875; c&#7843;i thi&#7879;n kh&#7843; n&#259;ng giao ti&#7871;p v&agrave; th&#7887;a m&atilde;n t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c v&agrave; cho ph&eacute;p &#273;&#7889;i t&aacute;c kh&aacute;m ph&aacute; nh&#7919;ng t&#432;&#7903;ng t&#432;&#7907;ng t&igrave;nh d&#7909;c c&#7911;a h&#7885;.T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh r&otilde; r&agrave;ng kh&ocirc;ng x&acirc;y d&#7921;ng trong m&#7897;t s&#7899;m m&#7897;t chi&#7873;u; &#273;&uacute;ng h&#417;n, n&oacute; ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n d&#7847;n d&#7847;n khi b&#7841;n quen nhau. K&#7871;t qu&#7843; l&agrave;, n&oacute; c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng b&#7873;n h&#417;n nhi&#7873;u. &#272;&acirc;y l&agrave; ki&#7875;u t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u c&oacute; th&#7875; k&eacute;o d&agrave;i h&agrave;ng ch&#7909;c n&#259;m.&mdash;--------C&aacute;c m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; th&#432;&#7901;ng b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u b&#7857;ng t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u n&#7891;ng ch&aacute;y, sau &#273;&oacute; tan bi&#7871;n ho&#7863;c chuy&#7875;n th&agrave;nh t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh. Kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; th&#7901;i gian bi&#7875;u ch&iacute;nh x&aacute;c cho th&#7901;i &#273;i&#7875;m &#273;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y x&#7843;y ra, nh&#432;ng th&#7901;i gian th&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng l&agrave; kho&#7843;ng t&#7915; 6 &#273;&#7871;n 30 th&aacute;ng sau khi b&#7855;t &#273;&#7847;u m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; [3]. Th&ecirc;m v&agrave;o &#273;&oacute;, trong khi m&ocirc; h&igrave;nh &#273;i&#7875;n h&igrave;nh l&agrave; &#273;i t&#7915; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh b&#7841;n &#273;&#7891;ng h&agrave;nh, th&igrave; &#273;i&#7873;u ng&#432;&#7907;c l&#7841;i c&#361;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; x&#7843;y ra (t&#7913;c l&agrave; khi nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7841;n t&#7889;t tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh ng&#432;&#7901;i y&ecirc;u c&#7911;a nhau), nh&#432;ng &#273;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y &iacute;t ph&#7893; bi&#7871;n h&#417;n nhi&#7873;u. Ngu&#7891;n t&agrave;i li&#7879;u tham kh&#7843;o[1] Hendrick, C., &amp; Hendrick, S. S. (2003). Romantic love: Measuring cupid's arrow.[2] Lehmiller, J. J. (2014). The Psychology of Human Sexuality (1st ed.). Wiley-Blackwell.[3] Acevedo, B. P., &amp; Aron, A. (2009). Does a long-term relationship kill romantic love?. 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