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<html><body><h2 style="text-align:justify;"><strong>K&#7923; 1: L&#7841;c kh&#7887;i &ldquo;x&#7913; s&#7903; th&#7847;n ti&ecirc;n&rdquo;</strong></h2><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><blockquote><p style="text-align:justify;">&ldquo;M&#7897;t trong nh&#7919;ng &#273;i&#7873;u m&agrave; m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7847;n ph&#7843;i h&#7885;c &#273;&#7875; l&agrave;m m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i tr&#432;&#7903;ng th&agrave;nh l&agrave; ph&#7843;i bi&#7871;t ch&#7883;u &#273;&#7921;ng s&#7921; thi&#7871;u r&otilde; r&agrave;ng. C&oacute; nhi&#7873;u &#273;i&#7873;u trong v&agrave; c&#7843; ngo&agrave;i b&agrave;i gi&#7843;ng m&agrave; t&agrave;i li&#7879;u, th&#7847;y c&ocirc; hay ch&iacute;nh b&#7843;n th&acirc;n c&aacute;c em c&#361;ng kh&ocirc;ng th&#7875; &#273;&#432;a ra m&#7897;t c&acirc;u tr&#7843; l&#7901;i tuy&#7879;t &#273;&#7889;i. H&atilde;y ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;.&rdquo;&nbsp;</p></blockquote><p style="text-align:justify;">C&ocirc; tr&#432;&#7903;ng khoa &#273;&atilde; n&oacute;i v&#7899;i l&#361; &ldquo;t&acirc;n sinh vi&ecirc;n&rdquo; nh&#432; th&#7871; trong ng&agrave;y &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n m&igrave;nh b&#432;&#7899;c ch&acirc;n v&agrave;o gi&#7843;ng &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng.</p><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><h3 style="text-align:justify;"><strong>T&#7915; h&igrave;nh dung c&#7911;a Tu&#7893;i tr&#7867;&hellip;</strong></h3><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><p style="text-align:justify;">&#7902; c&aacute;i tu&#7893;i 17 18, khi m&agrave; kh&iacute; th&#7871; v&#7851;n c&ograve;n h&#7915;ng h&#7921;c th&igrave; n&#259;m ch&#7919; &ldquo;h&atilde;y ch&#7845;p nh&#7853;n &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;&rdquo; nghe nh&#432; m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7873;u c&#7847;n ph&#7843;i &#273;&#432;&#7907;c lo&#7841;i b&#7887; kh&#7887;i t&#432; t&#432;&#7901;ng c&#7911;a ta. B&#7903;i c&acirc;u n&oacute;i ng&#7855;n g&#7885;n &#7845;y nghe nh&#432; m&#7897;t l&#7901;i k&ecirc;u g&#7885;i &#273;&#7847;u h&agrave;ng v&ocirc; &#273;i&#7873;u ki&#7879;n. Th&#7853;t ra vi&#7879;c &#273;&oacute; c&#361;ng kh&aacute; d&#7877; hi&#7875;u, &#7903; th&#7901;i &#273;i&#7875;m &#273;&oacute;, ph&#7847;n l&#7899;n ch&uacute;ng ta th&#432;&#7901;ng m&#7863;c &#273;&#7883;nh r&#7857;ng v&#7899;i nhi&#7879;t huy&#7871;t v&agrave; s&#7913;c m&#7841;nh c&#7911;a tu&#7893;i tr&#7867;, kh&ocirc;ng g&igrave; l&agrave; b&#7845;t kh&#7843; thi. V&#7843; l&#7841;i, t&#7845;t c&#7843; ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c d&#7841;y nh&#432; th&#7871; kia m&agrave;, r&#7857;ng ph&#7843;i ki&ecirc;n tr&igrave;, ph&#7843;i m&#7841;nh m&#7869;, ph&#7843;i theo &#273;u&#7893;i &#273;&#7871;n c&ugrave;ng&hellip;</p><p style="text-align:justify;">V&agrave; m&#7885;i th&#7913; s&#7869; v&#7851;n nh&#432; th&#7871;, ch&#7859;ng c&oacute; g&igrave; thay &#273;&#7893;i v&#7899;i n&atilde;o tr&#7841;ng c&#7911;a m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i cho &#273;&#7871;n m&#7897;t ng&agrave;y n&#7885;, ta &#273;&#7909;ng &#273;&#7847;u c&aacute;i &ldquo;c&#7889;p&rdquo; v&agrave;o m&#7897;t th&#7913; mang t&ecirc;n &ldquo;th&#7921;c t&#7841;i&rdquo;. L&#7847;n &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n trong cu&#7897;c &#273;&#7901;i, b&#7841;n nh&#7853;n ra m&igrave;nh &#273;ang &#273;&#7913;ng gi&#7919;a ng&atilde; ba &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng l&#7921;a ch&#7885;n kh&oacute; kh&#259;n, m&#7897;t m&#7899; b&ograve;ng bong x&aacute;m x&#7883;t ch&#7859;ng ro tr&#7855;ng &#273;en. &#272;&#7871;n l&uacute;c n&agrave;y th&igrave; m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i s&#7869; nh&#7853;n ra b&#7843;n th&acirc;n ch&#7859;ng c&ograve;n b&#432;&#7899;c &#273;i tr&ecirc;n m&#7897;t con &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng n&agrave;o r&otilde; r&agrave;ng c&#7843;. V&agrave; cho t&#7845;t c&#7843; nh&#7919;ng ai &#273;&atilde;, &#273;ang v&agrave; s&#7869; b&#432;&#7899;c &#273;&#7871;n c&aacute;i ng&atilde; ba &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng &#7845;y, ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&#7873;u &#273;ang &#7903; m&#7897;t &#273;i&#7875;m trong &#273;&#7901;i mang t&ecirc;n V&ugrave;ng X&aacute;m.</p><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><h3 style="text-align:justify;"><strong>&hellip; &#272;&#7871;n th&#7921;c t&#7841;i &ndash; khi b&#7841;n nh&#7853;n ra V&ugrave;ng x&aacute;m l&agrave; c&oacute; th&#7853;t</strong></h3><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><p style="text-align:justify;">V&ugrave;ng X&aacute;m (nguy&ecirc;n g&#7889;c ti&#7871;ng Anh: Grey Area) l&agrave; m&#7897;t thu&#7853;t ng&#7919; c&#7911;a ng&agrave;nh T&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c v&agrave; Tri&#7871;t h&#7885;c lu&acirc;n l&yacute;. &#272;&acirc;y l&agrave; thu&#7853;t ng&#7919; d&agrave;nh cho nh&#7919;ng t&igrave;nh hu&#7889;ng th&#7921;c t&#7871; trong cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng nh&#7853;t m&agrave; ta bu&#7897;c ph&#7843;i &#273;&#7913;ng gi&#7919;a nh&#7919;ng l&#7921;a ch&#7885;n kh&oacute; kh&#259;n v&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng c&oacute; m&#7897;t &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; &#273;&uacute;ng/sai tuy&#7879;t &#273;&#7889;i n&agrave;o c&#7843;. &#272;&uacute;ng v&#7899;i t&ecirc;n g&#7885;i c&#7911;a n&oacute;, V&ugrave;ng X&aacute;m l&agrave; khu v&#7921;c ranh gi&#7899;i c&#7911;a l&yacute; thuy&#7871;t v&agrave; th&#7921;c t&#7871;, n&#417;i giao thoa c&#7911;a tr&#7855;ng v&agrave; &#273;en. V&agrave; &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i, &#273;&oacute; gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; m&#7897;t m&ecirc; cung r&#7889;i r&#7855;m kh&ocirc;ng r&otilde; &#273;&#432;&#7901;ng ra.</p><p style="text-align:justify;">C&oacute; m&#7897;t s&#7921; th&#7853;t khoa h&#7885;c th&uacute; v&#7883; r&#7857;ng ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&#432;&#7907;c quy &#273;&#7883;nh l&agrave; &ldquo;ng&#432;&#7901;i l&#7899;n&rdquo; v&#7873; m&#7863;t ph&aacute;p l&yacute; khi &#273;&#7911; 18 tu&#7893;i. Trong khi v&#7873; m&#7863;t sinh h&#7885;c, n&atilde;o b&#7897; c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng &ldquo;ng&#432;&#7901;i tr&#432;&#7903;ng th&agrave;nh h&#7907;p ph&aacute;p&rdquo; n&agrave;y v&#7851;n ch&#432;a ho&agrave;n thi&#7879;n cho &#273;&#7871;n &iacute;t nh&#7845;t l&agrave; 25 tu&#7893;i. Theo ti&#7871;n s&#297; Adriana Galv&aacute;n, gi&aacute;o s&#432; T&acirc;m l&yacute; h&#7885;c v&agrave; l&agrave; ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;i&#7873;u h&agrave;nh ph&ograve;ng th&iacute; nghi&#7879;m v&#7873; Khoa h&#7885;c th&#7847;n kinh c&#7911;a UCLA, n&atilde;o b&#7897; con ng&#432;&#7901;i ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n theo th&#7913; t&#7921; t&#7915; sau ra tr&#432;&#7899;c. V&agrave; &#7903; tu&#7893;i 18, h&#7847;u h&#7871;t c&aacute;c khu v&#7921;c trong n&atilde;o b&#7897; &#273;&#7873;u &#273;&atilde; ho&agrave;n thi&#7879;n, m&#7895;i c&aacute; nh&acirc;n b&igrave;nh th&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&atilde; c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c nh&#7919;ng kh&#7843; n&#259;ng v&#7853;n &#273;&#7897;ng, k&#7929; n&#259;ng, kh&#7843; n&#259;ng nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c t&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#432;&#417;ng v&#7899;i m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i tr&#432;&#7903;ng th&agrave;nh. H&#7879; limbic &#273;&#7863;c bi&#7879;t ph&aacute;t tri&#7875;n khi&#7871;n ta nh&#7841;y c&#7843;m khi t&#432;&#417;ng t&aacute;c v&#7899;i m&ocirc;i tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#417;n b&#7845;t k&#7923; giai &#273;o&#7841;n n&agrave;o trong &#273;&#7901;i. Tuy nhi&ecirc;n, khu v&#7921;c th&ugrave;y tr&aacute;n, n&#417;i cung c&#7845;p kh&#7843; n&#259;ng t&#432; duy m&#7841;ch l&#7841;c c&ugrave;ng k&#7929; n&#259;ng &#273;&aacute;nh gi&aacute; v&agrave; c&acirc;n nh&#7855;c c&aacute;c quy&#7871;t &#273;&#7883;nh h&#7907;p l&yacute; v&#7851;n ch&#432;a ho&agrave;n thi&#7879;n.&nbsp;</p><p style="text-align:justify;">Ch&iacute;nh v&igrave; v&#7853;y m&agrave; tr&ecirc;n th&#7921;c t&#7871;, m&#7863;c d&ugrave; V&ugrave;ng X&aacute;m t&#7891;n t&#7841;i &#7903; h&#7847;u h&#7871;t c&aacute;c giai &#273;o&#7841;n trong cu&#7897;c &#273;&#7901;i k&#7875; t&#7915; khi con ng&#432;&#7901;i bi&#7871;t nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c, &#273;&#7889;i v&#7899;i &#273;&#7897; tu&#7893;i t&#7915; 18 &ndash; 25, &#273;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y v&#7851;n mang m&#7897;t &yacute; ngh&#297;a &#273;&#7863;c bi&#7879;t. V&ugrave;ng X&aacute;m s&#7855;m vai tr&ograve; nh&#432; m&#7897;t c&aacute;nh c&#7917;a &#273;&#432;a ch&uacute;ng ta &#273;&#7863;t nh&#7919;ng b&#432;&#7899;c ch&acirc;n &#273;&#7847;u ti&ecirc;n v&agrave;o th&#7871; gi&#7899;i &ldquo;th&#7921;c&rdquo;. &#272;&#7891;ng th&#7901;i, c&aacute;nh c&#7917;a &#7845;y c&#361;ng s&#7869; &#273;&oacute;ng g&oacute;p kh&ocirc;ng h&#7873; nh&#7887; v&agrave;o vi&#7879;c &#273;&#7883;nh h&igrave;nh m&#7897;t t&#432; duy ho&agrave;n thi&#7879;n c&#7911;a m&#7895;i ng&#432;&#7901;i.</p><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><h4 style="text-align:justify;">(to be continued&hellip;)</h4><p style="text-align:justify;">&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Author: UY&Ecirc;N PH&#431;&#416;NG (YOUTHer)</strong></p></body></html>


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